Archive | August, 2012

What I’ve Learned About Fucking Men From Fucking Men

31 Aug

Awhile back, I was fucking a top with a nine inch tool at one of the gay guesthouses by the beach here in Gay Partytown Ft. Lauderdale where I live when it hit me:

What have I learned about fucking men from, well, fucking men?

You see, for most of my gay career, I was pretty much an oral guy, and never let a guy get anything bigger than his tongue or finger near my hairy manhole. Then, about ten years ago, I came down to Lauderdale where you were almost forced to join one or the other of the two local political parties: toplican or a bottomcrat. Since I don’t wanna get fucked, I was left, by default, in total top territory and have found myself, with my humpy, hirsute body, almost seven inch tool, and cocky demeanor surprisingly in demand – even if I ain’t young anymore.

OK, so what have I learned?

That the guy still has to be a guy for me to get it up. Sorry for being judgmental – though equal opportunity employment doesn’t apply in the bedroom – but effeminate men, I don’t care how butch they look, won’t do it for Mr. Peter.

That I still need to see a stiff dick on my bottom for me to feel aroused.

That I like to suck a guy and have a guy suck me before I fuck him. Bottoms with their asses in the air and not interested in foreplay should get a broomstick.

That guys who describe themselves as “top/versatile” are closet bottoms.

That give me a furry butt and my cock is in fuck heaven, though a nice beefy, smooth ass can still do the job.

That I’ve fucked more guys who say their total tops with tools down to the floor than I’d ever figure.

That in this town, there are 7 bottoms to every three tops, yet most of the guys searching for a man on the sites are tops. And so many of these bottoms actually play hard to get. Huh? I can get off in the mirror, but you’re the one who needs my dick up your ass, right?

That they’re guys who say they want you to plow them all night and cum in ten minutes; or guys who say they love getting fucked, and get fucked all the time, then plead “watch it, man, I’m kinda tight” when you begin the penetration process.

That almost every bottom prefers to have his manhole prepped with your tongue before you shove it in.

That your tool can be half hard but as long as you’ve penetrated his hole (and I got a nice mushroom head to do that) and get it all the way up there, the guy is still in prostate heaven and usually cums with no problem. Yea, even with his dick limp.

That even when a guys lies to you and says he hasn’t been fucked in a while (like maybe 3 days), a wiff of poppers and he takes it like a pro.

That guys on E or meth are never satisfied, even if you fuck ‘em til your dick drops off.

That either position, on their stomach or with their legs up in the air facing you, is fine by me, but I feel I can penetrate him deeper when he faces me.

That my nips are hard-wired to my cock so if a guy plays with my nips while I fuck him, he knows he’s getting my maximum hard-on.

That my hottest fuck sessions are when my fuckee and I are role-playing Daddy and Boy (even if my Boy is 42) and how Dad needs to punish his boy’s butt to make him a man.

And finally that, no matter how much he tells you you’re a “Fucken A! , Fucken A!,” only one out of five bottoms you fuck ever invites you back for a second round.

So what happened to fuck buddies? Are they going the way of landline phones?

Tomorrow: What Would You Do If You Couldn’t Have Sex For A Year?

Tomorrow, we begin a series from The “Confessions” Archives: It’s All About Sex, Stupid!

30 Aug

And what better place to start than with: “What I’ve Learned About Fucking  Men From Fucking Men.”

30 Aug

For the past two years I’ve posted my daily blog, “Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man” where I’ve pontificated on just about facet of American gay subculture from sex (of course) to politics to hot spots to what I think makes us tick. All from the perspective of an ordinary gay man who’s seen and lived it all: Heady Gay Liberation, the Wild and Wicked Yet Strangely Innocent 70’s, the Genocidal 80’s, the Hesitant 90’s, right through the 21st Century Techno Obsession where we are today. Both a blessing and a curse, it has forever changed the gay landscape.

There are some of you who have applauded and lauded me for telling it like it is, not like the all-so-politically-correct gay pundits and activists tell us it should be; and there are others who have reviled me as a an arrogant, myopic, self-centered, heartless, uncaring,  narcissist deceiving asshole  – all true.  So be it. It’s my blog and I’ve said want I wanted to say; if you think differently, go write your own. That’s why God – not Al Gore – invented the internet.

I’ve also shared with you some of my most intimate experiences with the men I’ve known, loved and even slept with. And yes, what I told you was pretty much as it happened – no fiction writing here. Most of my encounters over the years have been mundane, even pedestrian, a few comical, a few hauntingly frightful, and a handful – maybe five in a lifetime – iconic, the kind of encounters and relationships gay men live for.

Yes, I guess I’ve been lucky.

But now I feel I’ve said just about all I wanted to say, and that it’s time to hang up my jockstrap, figuratively at least, and move on to other creative endeavors like my third work of gay fiction.

But who knows? I may return some day here to let it all hang out again with some more true confessions of a str8 gay man. After all, when it comes to being gay,  or living, never say never.

Meanwhile for the curious, below is a directory by subject of all the BS I’ve posted – Yikes! Did I write all that? – just in case one cold and lonely night you get bored with your favorite porn.

And if you’re in the mood for some raunchy gay tales with a film noir flair, check out my other site, erotic-gay-fiction.com; or my e-books on Amazon.com’s Kindle or Barnes and Nobles’ (bn.com) Nook, “Basic Butch” and “Not in It For the Love” under me, RP Andrews.

“Basic Butch” is my collection of edgy short stories set in some of America’s leading gay venues, New York, Chicago, Houston, and Fort Lauderdale and involve characters – gay men and women – whose arrogant, aggressive natures lead them down life paths they wished they had never explored. Walks on the beach these stories ain’t.

“Not In It For the Love,” a novella, is the story of Josh, an 18 year old psychopathic Florida drifter, whose body and cocky attitude are all he has to offer the world. Bishop, a successful Wall Street power broker, convinces Josh to leave the life of a cheap motel hustler and come away with him to Manhattan where he introduces him to The Good Life as his trophy boy. Yet for Josh, sex remains a momentary pleasure, or more often, a commodity for sale, and killing – beginning with his own parents – a practical way to make problems go away. And when Hylan, a fellow drifter, enters his life, Josh realizes killing is the only way for him to hold on to what matters. That is, until 9/11 changes everything.

For more, check out the pages listed under my blog masthead

Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man Subject Directory

Below is a directory of the subjects I’ve posted since I started Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man for your virgin enjoyment or hardcore rediscovery. Use the date and the monthly archive in the lower right column to retrieve.

Category headings:

  • The Gay Psyche
  • Gay Culture
  • Gay Issues and Politics
  • Man Make-over
  • Sex and Where To Find It
  • My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man
  • Gay Personas
  • Relationships
  • Playing the Web
  • Friends, Family And Holidays
  • The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God
  • Tripping: My Take on Some So-called Gay Travel Hotspots
  • Hangin’ Loose in SoFlo (South Florida)
  • Florida’s Gay Campgrounds  

The Gay Psyche

7/19/10 The Silent Majority
7/21, 22/10 Shades of Gay
7/20/10 The New Millennium Gay Lexicon
9/7/10 The Homophobic Homosexual
1/15/11 One Guy’s Lament: “I Hate Being Gay. It’s a Lonely, Miserable Life”
8/14,15/10 Telling Your World
2/15/11 What We Look For In a Man
8/3/10 Looking for Mr. Good Dick
2/17/11 How Far Would You Go For Mr. Right?
2/24/11 Kodak Moments
9/8.10,11/10 Forty Years Post Gay Liberation: What Went Wrong?
5/12, 13/11 The Male Gay Baby Boomer
8/28, 29/10 The Inferiority/Superiority Meter: Our Fragile Egos in Overdrive
2/27/11 What’s Gauche in Straight life is Hot in Gaydom
12/15/10 Me, Myself and I: Super Egos
5/7/11 You Ready for Retirement? (I don’t mean from sex, dude)
1/21/11 Canine Obsession
5/10/11 Rite of Passage
5/5/11 What the Fuck?! Crazy People, Crazy Moments
1/24, 26/11 Ten Minutes Left in the Candy Store: Coming Out Late in Life
5/17/11 Gay Happiness
3/21/12 Age and Attitude
3/23/12 Twenty Somethings: The Pan Sexual Generation?
3/24/12 The Warren Beatty Complex

 

Gay Culture

1/9/11 Is There Really a Gay Community?
8/4/10 The Guy Bar: An Endangered Species?
10/22,23,24/10 The U.S. Leather Scene: On Life Support?
 5/16/11 The Gay Gap: Segregation from Without – and Within
11/16/10 Twenty Somethings: The Pan-Sexual Generation?
10/13/10 Personal Reflections on the Gay Bullying Epidemic
4/23/11 Gay Double Speak
4/25/11 The Gay Nude Sub-Culture
8/9, 10/10 “Don’t Flush for Piss:” The Sleaze Factor
1/7/11 The Next Best Gay Bar
4/24/11 Gay Pride: Proud About What?
8/22/10 “You Party?”
2/24/11 Girley Man
11/17/10 Gays and Their Cell Phones, iphones, Blackberrys, etc.
1/22/11 Cruising in Limbo
1/30/11 My Beef with Men’s Fitness Magazine
11/7/10;4/16/12 Is Logo Exploitation Television? Is Logo Going Str8?
9/3/10 Was “Queer as Folk” For Real?
2/6/11 Stalkers
1/5/11 Gay Guys and Their Girl Friends
1/28/11 Oz vs. Kansas: The Urban Scene vs. Rural Nowhere
11/29/10 Lauderdale’s Leather Masked Ball
10/29/10 Halloween, South Florida Style
1/23/11 Lauderdale’s Top Gay “Professions”
11/26/10 SoFlo Tourists: A Necessary Evil
1/3/11 My 2020 Predictions for Gay Life
11/01/12 Beefcake TV: It’s About Fucken Time!
4/13/11 Florida’s Gay Rodeo: No Brokeback Mountain
3/6/12 Trouble in Gaytown?
3/8/12 “Cruising,” The Movie: A Gay Docudrama Of How It Was
3/22/12 The F Word (F for “Fag”)
3/22/12 Living in Tinseltown (South Florida)
3/30/12 Are American Men As Stupid As TV, Movies, Advertising Make Them Out To Be?
4/7/12 Wake Up Guys! Gay Cruises, Gay Days: They’re Not about Acceptance, They’re All About Our $$$
4/11/12 “My Week With Marilyn”: Michelle, I Knew Marilyn and You’re No Marilyn
4/9,12/12 Transgenderism Part of Gay Culture? Transgender This!
4/17/12 Gay Society’s One Percent
4/18/12 Gay History: Do The Young’ens Know? Or Even Care?
4/21/12 The Gay Rodeo’s in Town! OK and?
4/26/12  My Top Ten Worse Fag Bad Habits Out of the Bedroom
5/13/12 Lauderdale’s Beach Bear Weekend: More Social Than Sex

Gay Issues and Politics

10/8/10 Power in Numbers: We Could Fill the State of Texas and Then Some!
10/10/10 Gays and Adoption: Big News in the Sunshine State
12/19/10;1/15/12 It’s About Fucken Time: Gays and the Military
12/13,14/10 The AIDS Crisis: Victims, Self Inflicted
10/25,26/11 Gay Marriage Reality Check Time
12/1/11 What To Do About Florida’s AIDS Crisis NOW
12/20/11 Feds Say Real Estate Flipping Caused the Bust: How Gays Contributed To the Mess
12/28/11          White Party BS: When The Fuck Is AIDS Resource Gonna Wake Up?
1/13/12 Profanity on Broadcast TV: Hey Supreme Court? Ever Watch “Two & a Half Men?”
1/15/12 Flattery From the Pope
3/11/12 The HIV Health Care Access Working Work Policy: The Devil’s in The Details
3/13/12 “Pill Anyone?”: The Contraception Controversy
3/19/12 On The Subject of Marriage (Again)
12/4/11 Repealing DOMA Is Critical to Making Gay Marriage Work
4/21/12 Some More Good News Re. Gay Marriage
4/25/12 HIV Stigma Sucks.com
5/11/12 Is The Whole Gay Marriage Thing Going Down The Crapper?
5/15/12 Coming Out for Gay Marriage May Be the Dumbest Thing Obama Has Done
5/18/12 AIDS: Why Are We Still Even Talking About It?
6/13/12 Gay Marriage Showdown Destined for the Supreme Court?

 

Man Make-Over

2/28/11 Getting in Shape for Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now)
3/1, 2/11 Working Out and More Tales from the Gym
3/3,4/11 Cosmetic Surgery
3/5, 6/11 Rejuvenation Therapy: Mr. T and More

 

Sex and Where to Get It

2/27/11 So What Are You Looking For NOW?
8/11/10 The Dickter (as in Rickter) Scale
2/8/11 The Perfect Cock, the Perfect Butt: What’s Your Favorite?
2/4/11 What’s YOUR Body Count?
8/30, 9/1/10 A Hard Dick Is Hard To Find: America’s Erection Crisis
2/12, 13/11 What Happened To Lust?
2/7/11 Getting it Up and Keeping It Up: Those Magic Pills
2/9/11 Getting It Up and Keeping It Up: It’s All in Your Head
11/15/10 The Comings and Goings of Cumming
3/7, 8, 9/11 Baths and Sex Clubs
3/11, 10/11 Rating the Hook-up Sites
3/12/11 Making a Scene: Public Sex
1/8/11 Fuck Buddy Groups
8/5/10 The Fine Art of Cocksucking
2/22/11 Is Cocksucking a Lost Art?
1/16/11 Oral Only, Anyone?
5/5/11 The Magic Triangle
10/8,9/10 Bearcrashing
11/14, 11/29/10 Huge Cocks: Is Bigger Really Better?
11/27, 28/10 Underwear Nite at the Ramrod
12/4/10 Extreme Sex: X Marks The Spot
12/5, 6/10 This Hand Was Made for Fisting
12/8/10 Asphyxiation: How Tight Do You Want It?
12/10 Scat: Dirty Little Secrets
9/15/10 Fetishes: Strange Bedfellows
3/17, 18/11 Second Hand Sex
2/11/11 Talking Dirty
4/26-30/11 Picking Up Str8 Guys
2/10/11 Being a Pig Ain’t All Fun
1/31/11 Double Booking
3/28/11 7 Men, 32 Hours
3/14, 15, 16/11 Midnight At The Oasis: Friday Nite at The Local Sex Club
4/3/11 Rim Away!
1/2/12 Hard-on Day Dreaming
1/18/12 Getting Off the Assembly Editing Way
1/26/12 When Is Sex Addiction Not Sex Addiction
2/16/12 The Tina Fuck (No, Not Fuck Tina) Diet
3/11/12 The Res-Erection of Barebacking
3/18/12 The Way of All Flesh
3/18/12 Bottoms Up!
3/25, 4/30/12 What Would You Do If You Couldn’t Have Sex for A Year?
3/29/12 Not Happy With the Size of Your Dick?
4/6/12 Total Tops, Total Bottoms
4/11/12 What I’ve Learned About Fucking Men From Fucking Men
4/14/12 Is In-The-Flesh Sex Losing Out to Cyber Sex?
4/27/12 They Should Call It P-Pad (P for Porn)
4/28/12 My Top Worse Fag Habits in the Bedroom
5/3/12 So What’s My Fantasy? My REAL Fantasy?
6/26/12 The New Meat Syndrome
6/27/12 So What’s One Way for a Sex Pig to Go Celibate?
6/27/12 Go Fuck Yourself (Now You Can!)
7/1/12 Drugs and Sex: Inseparable?
7/21/12 Going Versatile

 

My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man

8/21/10 It’s All About The Fur
2/21/11 My Life as a Furry Guy
2/23/11 Furry Backs
2/25, 26/11 Hairy Men I Have Known, Loved and Even Slept With
6/14-16/11 My Month as a Rentboy
2/17/12 My 15 Minutes of Fame (More Like 57) In Porn
3/16/12 I’m An Older Gay Man Who Likes Older Guys But …
5/30,31;6/1/12 The Memorial Day Weekend Diary of a Pig
6/13/12 Hirsute Phobia
7/8, 9/12 The Two Most Sensual Hours in My Life With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
7/10, 11/12 Friday Night and Saturday Morning: More With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
8/17, 18/12 How My Last Blow-Out with The Sexiest Man in My Life Almost Became the Nightmare of My Life
9/11/11 9-11: I Was There.

Gay Personas

 4/3/11 Technos
4/5/11 Bears
4/7/11 Muscle Bears
8/20/10 The Belt Loop Boys
4/4/11 Peter Pans and Tinker Bells
4/8/11 Closet Cases
4/9/11 Bi’s
4/10/11 Extremos
4/6/11 Flickers
5/15/11 A Tale of Two Men
1/29/11 Party Boy
10/17/10 The Perfect Fuck
12/23/10 Airheads
12/1,3/10 This Dad Has Two Sons
1/17/11 On Your Knees: My Born Again Manhunt Hook-up
12/27-31/10 Meth Heads: Ode to Mitch
3/18/12 A Boy and His Dog
3/20/12 The 2012 Airhead of The Year Award
3/21/12 The New Age Flasher
3/26/12 Career Gays vs. Professional Gays
4/20/12 The Flypaper Boys
4/27/12 The Asshole of the Month Award
5/2/12 Klone Kevin
5/4/12 So What’s a Daddy Dick?
5/5/12 Heterosexists
6/21/12 Silent Sex: Making it with a Deaf Guy

 

 Relationships

For my blogs on Gay Marriage see “Gay Issues and Politics”

8/2310 “Seeking LTR”: You Sure About That?
2/14/11 Gay LTR’s: Fantasy or Fact?
2/18/11 Making Relationships Work: Do’s and Don’ts
9/25/10 Monogamy: Another Gay Myth
9/12/10 Signs Something’s Amiss (in Your LTR)
8/12/10 Fuck Buddies
2/16/11 Partners Vs. Fuck Buddies: Who’s Better?
2/19/11 Fuckin’ Around (and Married)
9/26, 27/10 Threesomes: Utterly Decadent or Somewhat Problematic?
2/20/11 So You’re Calling It Quits: Getting Out Gracefully
2/2/11 Boys Don’t Cry: Are We Adult Males or Love Sick Adolescent Girls?
3/31/12 Ten Reasons Why Taking My Partner to Key West Was A Mistake
4/8/12 Monogamy Double Talk
4/18/12 Honesty in Relationships
4/25/12 He’s There Somewhere. Waiting. Waiting for You.
7/22/12 Those Who Don’t Have an LTR Want One, Those That Do, Want Out
8/3/12  Excess Baggage

 

 Sex Slots: Playing The Web

3/19/11 The Web: The New Millennium’s Gay Addiction
7/28/10 Confessions of a Cyber-spike Addict
3/20/11 Cyberspikes: Almost As Good As You Know What
3/21, 22/11 What Works and Doesn’t in a Web Profile
10/20/10?? Family Albums
3/25/11 “Caution: You Have Just Entered The No Fuck Zone.”
3/23, 24/11 Hook-up Fuck-offs, Cyberstyle
3/26, 27/11 Cyber Mindfuckers
2/5/11 Will These Web Boys Shit or Get Off the Pot?
5/5/11 Reading Between The Lines
5/4/11 “BTW, I want let you know I’m Poz, if that’s OK with you”
5/1/11 Are The Hook-up Sites Getting Prudish?
9/4/10 Web Hook-ups from Hell: Cruising in Craig Country
1/16/12 Chat with Some Hunk in Dubai Lately?
3/26/12 Thank the Gay God For My Midnight IM Saviors
4/5/12 How To Reply to a Totally Unsolicited Web Hit
4/24/12 How NOT to Hit Up a Guy You Really Want on the Web
5/1/12 Get Ur &&;LA DY ##hOT 2niTE With a {tOOL th at deLIVERES
5/3/12 Hook-up Gems
5/4/12 Wireless Café
5/23/12 Hey Dude, You’re Fucken Hot, I’d Loving Getting Together But …
6/13/12 Front Page News in South Florida: Grindr!
6/27/12 Odd Man Out – More Web Weirdies
6/27/12 He Sounds Like A Great Guy, But …
6/29/12 The Web:A Numbers Game, & Like Vegas, the Odds Are Against You

 

Friends, Family and Holidays

8/17, 18/10 Friends of the Friendless
12/19/10 Friends, Vacation and Fucking
12/21/10 Why I Hate The Holidays
5/8/11 Memories of My Own “Mommie Dearest”
12/21/11 Christmas Cheer?
4/22, 23/12 When Alien Worlds Collide: Boring Suburban Relatives vs. Evil Urban Me
5/13/12 My Mother’s Day Royal Fuck-up
3/13/12 Dad: My First Sex Object
5/28/12 Remembering Dad on Memorial Day

The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God

12/20 Yes, God Loves Us.
12/22 What If Jesus Were Bi?

 

Tripping: My Take on Some So-Called Gay Travel Hotspots

5/2/11 The Pig Vacation Planner
9/29, 10/1/10 San Francisco: Resting on Its Gay Laurels?
11/19-21/10 Key West Techno
12/11, 12/10 California Dreaming
4/15/11 Tampa and St. Pete’s
5/14/12 St. Pete’s Revisited
4/13/11 New Orleans
4/14/11 Chicago
7/14, 15/12 Montreal: Land of the Uncut 2010 vs. 2012
4/22/11 London, Paris
1/12/11 Seattle Seedy   
8/5-8/12 Cruising and Making It In Berlin

 Hangin’ in So Flo (South Florida)

 3/29/11 Hanging in SoFlo
10/16/11 Sebastian Beach, Fort Lauderdale’s Gay Sandbox
3/30, 31/11 Haulover: SoFlo’s Nude Beach
4/2/11 The Bar Scene for the Str8 Gay Man
1/10/11 Blowing A Load: Places to Have Sex (Legally) in Lauderdale

 

Florida’s Gay Campgrounds

2/05/12 Campground Cruising
11/5, 6/10 Cockteasing at Sawmill Campgrounds
7/5/12 No Life On Mars (Mars, Florida’s Gay Campgrounds That Is Is)
12/12/11;7/28/12 Vitambi Springs

 

29 Aug

For the past two years I’ve posted my daily blog, “Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man” where I’ve pontificated on just about facet of American gay subculture from sex (of course) to politics to hot spots to what I think makes us tick. All from the perspective of an ordinary gay man who’s seen and lived it all: Heady Gay Liberation, the Wild and Wicked Yet Strangely Innocent 70’s, the Genocidal 80’s, the Hesitant 90’s, right through the 21st Century Techno Obsession where we are today. Both a blessing and a curse, it has forever changed the gay landscape.

There are some of you who have applauded and lauded me for telling it like it is, not like the all-so-politically-correct gay pundits and activists tell us it should be; and there are others who have reviled me as a an arrogant, myopic, self-centered, heartless, uncaring,  narcissist deceiving asshole  – all true.  So be it. It’s my blog and I’ve said want I wanted to say; if you think differently, go write your own. That’s why God – not Al Gore – invented the internet.

I’ve also shared with you some of my most intimate experiences with the men I’ve known, loved and even slept with. And yes, what I told you was pretty much as it happened – no fiction writing here. Most of my encounters over the years have been mundane, even pedestrian, a few comical, a few hauntingly frightful, and a handful – maybe five in a lifetime – iconic, the kind of encounters and relationships gay men live for.

Yes, I guess I’ve been lucky.

But now I feel I’ve said just about all I wanted to say, and that it’s time to hang up my jockstrap, figuratively at least, and move on to other creative endeavors like my third work of gay fiction.

But who knows? I may return some day here to let it all hang out again with some more true confessions of a str8 gay man. After all, when it comes to being gay,  or living, never say never.

Meanwhile for the curious, below is a directory by subject of all the BS I’ve posted – Yikes! Did I write all that? – just in case one cold and lonely night you get bored with your favorite porn.

And if you’re in the mood for some raunchy gay tales with a film noir flair, check out my other site, erotic-gay-fiction.com; or my e-books on Amazon.com’s Kindle or Barnes and Nobles’ (bn.com) Nook, “Basic Butch” and “Not in It For the Love” under me, RP Andrews.

“Basic Butch” is my collection of edgy short stories set in some of America’s leading gay venues, New York, Chicago, Houston, and Fort Lauderdale and involve characters – gay men and women – whose arrogant, aggressive natures lead them down life paths they wished they had never explored. Walks on the beach these stories ain’t.

“Not In It For the Love,” a novella, is the story of Josh, an 18 year old psychopathic Florida drifter, whose body and cocky attitude are all he has to offer the world. Bishop, a successful Wall Street power broker, convinces Josh to leave the life of a cheap motel hustler and come away with him to Manhattan where he introduces him to The Good Life as his trophy boy. Yet for Josh, sex remains a momentary pleasure, or more often, a commodity for sale, and killing – beginning with his own parents – a practical way to make problems go away. And when Hylan, a fellow drifter, enters his life, Josh realizes killing is the only way for him to hold on to what matters. That is, until 9/11 changes everything.

For more, check out the pages listed under my blog masthead

Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man Subject Directory

Below is a directory of the subjects I’ve posted since I started Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man for your virgin enjoyment or hardcore rediscovery. Use the date and the monthly archive in the lower right column to retrieve.

Category headings:

  • The Gay Psyche
  • Gay Culture
  • Gay Issues and Politics
  • Man Make-over
  • Sex and Where To Find It
  • My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man
  • Gay Personas
  • Relationships
  • Playing the Web
  • Friends, Family And Holidays
  • The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God
  • Tripping: My Take on Some So-called Gay Travel Hotspots
  • Hangin’ Loose in SoFlo (South Florida)
  • Florida’s Gay Campgrounds  

The Gay Psyche

7/19/10 The Silent Majority
7/21, 22/10 Shades of Gay
7/20/10 The New Millennium Gay Lexicon
9/7/10 The Homophobic Homosexual
1/15/11 One Guy’s Lament: “I Hate Being Gay. It’s a Lonely, Miserable Life”
8/14,15/10 Telling Your World
2/15/11 What We Look For In a Man
8/3/10 Looking for Mr. Good Dick
2/17/11 How Far Would You Go For Mr. Right?
2/24/11 Kodak Moments
9/8.10,11/10 Forty Years Post Gay Liberation: What Went Wrong?
5/12, 13/11 The Male Gay Baby Boomer
8/28, 29/10 The Inferiority/Superiority Meter: Our Fragile Egos in Overdrive
2/27/11 What’s Gauche in Straight life is Hot in Gaydom
12/15/10 Me, Myself and I: Super Egos
5/7/11 You Ready for Retirement? (I don’t mean from sex, dude)
1/21/11 Canine Obsession
5/10/11 Rite of Passage
5/5/11 What the Fuck?! Crazy People, Crazy Moments
1/24, 26/11 Ten Minutes Left in the Candy Store: Coming Out Late in Life
5/17/11 Gay Happiness
3/21/12 Age and Attitude
3/23/12 Twenty Somethings: The Pan Sexual Generation?
3/24/12 The Warren Beatty Complex

 

Gay Culture

1/9/11 Is There Really a Gay Community?
8/4/10 The Guy Bar: An Endangered Species?
10/22,23,24/10 The U.S. Leather Scene: On Life Support?
 5/16/11 The Gay Gap: Segregation from Without – and Within
11/16/10 Twenty Somethings: The Pan-Sexual Generation?
10/13/10 Personal Reflections on the Gay Bullying Epidemic
4/23/11 Gay Double Speak
4/25/11 The Gay Nude Sub-Culture
8/9, 10/10 “Don’t Flush for Piss:” The Sleaze Factor
1/7/11 The Next Best Gay Bar
4/24/11 Gay Pride: Proud About What?
8/22/10 “You Party?”
2/24/11 Girley Man
11/17/10 Gays and Their Cell Phones, iphones, Blackberrys, etc.
1/22/11 Cruising in Limbo
1/30/11 My Beef with Men’s Fitness Magazine
11/7/10;4/16/12 Is Logo Exploitation Television? Is Logo Going Str8?
9/3/10 Was “Queer as Folk” For Real?
2/6/11 Stalkers
1/5/11 Gay Guys and Their Girl Friends
1/28/11 Oz vs. Kansas: The Urban Scene vs. Rural Nowhere
11/29/10 Lauderdale’s Leather Masked Ball
10/29/10 Halloween, South Florida Style
1/23/11 Lauderdale’s Top Gay “Professions”
11/26/10 SoFlo Tourists: A Necessary Evil
1/3/11 My 2020 Predictions for Gay Life
11/01/12 Beefcake TV: It’s About Fucken Time!
4/13/11 Florida’s Gay Rodeo: No Brokeback Mountain
3/6/12 Trouble in Gaytown?
3/8/12 “Cruising,” The Movie: A Gay Docudrama Of How It Was
3/22/12 The F Word (F for “Fag”)
3/22/12 Living in Tinseltown (South Florida)
3/30/12 Are American Men As Stupid As TV, Movies, Advertising Make Them Out To Be?
4/7/12 Wake Up Guys! Gay Cruises, Gay Days: They’re Not about Acceptance, They’re All About Our $$$
4/11/12 “My Week With Marilyn”: Michelle, I Knew Marilyn and You’re No Marilyn
4/9,12/12 Transgenderism Part of Gay Culture? Transgender This!
4/17/12 Gay Society’s One Percent
4/18/12 Gay History: Do The Young’ens Know? Or Even Care?
4/21/12 The Gay Rodeo’s in Town! OK and?
4/26/12  My Top Ten Worse Fag Bad Habits Out of the Bedroom
5/13/12 Lauderdale’s Beach Bear Weekend: More Social Than Sex

Gay Issues and Politics

10/8/10 Power in Numbers: We Could Fill the State of Texas and Then Some!
10/10/10 Gays and Adoption: Big News in the Sunshine State
12/19/10;1/15/12 It’s About Fucken Time: Gays and the Military
12/13,14/10 The AIDS Crisis: Victims, Self Inflicted
10/25,26/11 Gay Marriage Reality Check Time
12/1/11 What To Do About Florida’s AIDS Crisis NOW
12/20/11 Feds Say Real Estate Flipping Caused the Bust: How Gays Contributed To the Mess
12/28/11          White Party BS: When The Fuck Is AIDS Resource Gonna Wake Up?
1/13/12 Profanity on Broadcast TV: Hey Supreme Court? Ever Watch “Two & a Half Men?”
1/15/12 Flattery From the Pope
3/11/12 The HIV Health Care Access Working Work Policy: The Devil’s in The Details
3/13/12 “Pill Anyone?”: The Contraception Controversy
3/19/12 On The Subject of Marriage (Again)
12/4/11 Repealing DOMA Is Critical to Making Gay Marriage Work
4/21/12 Some More Good News Re. Gay Marriage
4/25/12 HIV Stigma Sucks.com
5/11/12 Is The Whole Gay Marriage Thing Going Down The Crapper?
5/15/12 Coming Out for Gay Marriage May Be the Dumbest Thing Obama Has Done
5/18/12 AIDS: Why Are We Still Even Talking About It?
6/13/12 Gay Marriage Showdown Destined for the Supreme Court?

 

Man Make-Over

2/28/11 Getting in Shape for Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now)
3/1, 2/11 Working Out and More Tales from the Gym
3/3,4/11 Cosmetic Surgery
3/5, 6/11 Rejuvenation Therapy: Mr. T and More

 

Sex and Where to Get It

2/27/11 So What Are You Looking For NOW?
8/11/10 The Dickter (as in Rickter) Scale
2/8/11 The Perfect Cock, the Perfect Butt: What’s Your Favorite?
2/4/11 What’s YOUR Body Count?
8/30, 9/1/10 A Hard Dick Is Hard To Find: America’s Erection Crisis
2/12, 13/11 What Happened To Lust?
2/7/11 Getting it Up and Keeping It Up: Those Magic Pills
2/9/11 Getting It Up and Keeping It Up: It’s All in Your Head
11/15/10 The Comings and Goings of Cumming
3/7, 8, 9/11 Baths and Sex Clubs
3/11, 10/11 Rating the Hook-up Sites
3/12/11 Making a Scene: Public Sex
1/8/11 Fuck Buddy Groups
8/5/10 The Fine Art of Cocksucking
2/22/11 Is Cocksucking a Lost Art?
1/16/11 Oral Only, Anyone?
5/5/11 The Magic Triangle
10/8,9/10 Bearcrashing
11/14, 11/29/10 Huge Cocks: Is Bigger Really Better?
11/27, 28/10 Underwear Nite at the Ramrod
12/4/10 Extreme Sex: X Marks The Spot
12/5, 6/10 This Hand Was Made for Fisting
12/8/10 Asphyxiation: How Tight Do You Want It?
12/10 Scat: Dirty Little Secrets
9/15/10 Fetishes: Strange Bedfellows
3/17, 18/11 Second Hand Sex
2/11/11 Talking Dirty
4/26-30/11 Picking Up Str8 Guys
2/10/11 Being a Pig Ain’t All Fun
1/31/11 Double Booking
3/28/11 7 Men, 32 Hours
3/14, 15, 16/11 Midnight At The Oasis: Friday Nite at The Local Sex Club
4/3/11 Rim Away!
1/2/12 Hard-on Day Dreaming
1/18/12 Getting Off the Assembly Editing Way
1/26/12 When Is Sex Addiction Not Sex Addiction
2/16/12 The Tina Fuck (No, Not Fuck Tina) Diet
3/11/12 The Res-Erection of Barebacking
3/18/12 The Way of All Flesh
3/18/12 Bottoms Up!
3/25, 4/30/12 What Would You Do If You Couldn’t Have Sex for A Year?
3/29/12 Not Happy With the Size of Your Dick?
4/6/12 Total Tops, Total Bottoms
4/11/12 What I’ve Learned About Fucking Men From Fucking Men
4/14/12 Is In-The-Flesh Sex Losing Out to Cyber Sex?
4/27/12 They Should Call It P-Pad (P for Porn)
4/28/12 My Top Worse Fag Habits in the Bedroom
5/3/12 So What’s My Fantasy? My REAL Fantasy?
6/26/12 The New Meat Syndrome
6/27/12 So What’s One Way for a Sex Pig to Go Celibate?
6/27/12 Go Fuck Yourself (Now You Can!)
7/1/12 Drugs and Sex: Inseparable?
7/21/12 Going Versatile

 

My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man

8/21/10 It’s All About The Fur
2/21/11 My Life as a Furry Guy
2/23/11 Furry Backs
2/25, 26/11 Hairy Men I Have Known, Loved and Even Slept With
6/14-16/11 My Month as a Rentboy
2/17/12 My 15 Minutes of Fame (More Like 57) In Porn
3/16/12 I’m An Older Gay Man Who Likes Older Guys But …
5/30,31;6/1/12 The Memorial Day Weekend Diary of a Pig
6/13/12 Hirsute Phobia
7/8, 9/12 The Two Most Sensual Hours in My Life With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
7/10, 11/12 Friday Night and Saturday Morning: More With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
8/17, 18/12 How My Last Blow-Out with The Sexiest Man in My Life Almost Became the Nightmare of My Life
9/11/11 9-11: I Was There.

Gay Personas

 4/3/11 Technos
4/5/11 Bears
4/7/11 Muscle Bears
8/20/10 The Belt Loop Boys
4/4/11 Peter Pans and Tinker Bells
4/8/11 Closet Cases
4/9/11 Bi’s
4/10/11 Extremos
4/6/11 Flickers
5/15/11 A Tale of Two Men
1/29/11 Party Boy
10/17/10 The Perfect Fuck
12/23/10 Airheads
12/1,3/10 This Dad Has Two Sons
1/17/11 On Your Knees: My Born Again Manhunt Hook-up
12/27-31/10 Meth Heads: Ode to Mitch
3/18/12 A Boy and His Dog
3/20/12 The 2012 Airhead of The Year Award
3/21/12 The New Age Flasher
3/26/12 Career Gays vs. Professional Gays
4/20/12 The Flypaper Boys
4/27/12 The Asshole of the Month Award
5/2/12 Klone Kevin
5/4/12 So What’s a Daddy Dick?
5/5/12 Heterosexists
6/21/12 Silent Sex: Making it with a Deaf Guy

 

 Relationships

For my blogs on Gay Marriage see “Gay Issues and Politics”

8/2310 “Seeking LTR”: You Sure About That?
2/14/11 Gay LTR’s: Fantasy or Fact?
2/18/11 Making Relationships Work: Do’s and Don’ts
9/25/10 Monogamy: Another Gay Myth
9/12/10 Signs Something’s Amiss (in Your LTR)
8/12/10 Fuck Buddies
2/16/11 Partners Vs. Fuck Buddies: Who’s Better?
2/19/11 Fuckin’ Around (and Married)
9/26, 27/10 Threesomes: Utterly Decadent or Somewhat Problematic?
2/20/11 So You’re Calling It Quits: Getting Out Gracefully
2/2/11 Boys Don’t Cry: Are We Adult Males or Love Sick Adolescent Girls?
3/31/12 Ten Reasons Why Taking My Partner to Key West Was A Mistake
4/8/12 Monogamy Double Talk
4/18/12 Honesty in Relationships
4/25/12 He’s There Somewhere. Waiting. Waiting for You.
7/22/12 Those Who Don’t Have an LTR Want One, Those That Do, Want Out
8/3/12  Excess Baggage

 

 Sex Slots: Playing The Web

3/19/11 The Web: The New Millennium’s Gay Addiction
7/28/10 Confessions of a Cyber-spike Addict
3/20/11 Cyberspikes: Almost As Good As You Know What
3/21, 22/11 What Works and Doesn’t in a Web Profile
10/20/10?? Family Albums
3/25/11 “Caution: You Have Just Entered The No Fuck Zone.”
3/23, 24/11 Hook-up Fuck-offs, Cyberstyle
3/26, 27/11 Cyber Mindfuckers
2/5/11 Will These Web Boys Shit or Get Off the Pot?
5/5/11 Reading Between The Lines
5/4/11 “BTW, I want let you know I’m Poz, if that’s OK with you”
5/1/11 Are The Hook-up Sites Getting Prudish?
9/4/10 Web Hook-ups from Hell: Cruising in Craig Country
1/16/12 Chat with Some Hunk in Dubai Lately?
3/26/12 Thank the Gay God For My Midnight IM Saviors
4/5/12 How To Reply to a Totally Unsolicited Web Hit
4/24/12 How NOT to Hit Up a Guy You Really Want on the Web
5/1/12 Get Ur &&;LA DY ##hOT 2niTE With a {tOOL th at deLIVERES
5/3/12 Hook-up Gems
5/4/12 Wireless Café
5/23/12 Hey Dude, You’re Fucken Hot, I’d Loving Getting Together But …
6/13/12 Front Page News in South Florida: Grindr!
6/27/12 Odd Man Out – More Web Weirdies
6/27/12 He Sounds Like A Great Guy, But …
6/29/12 The Web:A Numbers Game, & Like Vegas, the Odds Are Against You

 

Friends, Family and Holidays

8/17, 18/10 Friends of the Friendless
12/19/10 Friends, Vacation and Fucking
12/21/10 Why I Hate The Holidays
5/8/11 Memories of My Own “Mommie Dearest”
12/21/11 Christmas Cheer?
4/22, 23/12 When Alien Worlds Collide: Boring Suburban Relatives vs. Evil Urban Me
5/13/12 My Mother’s Day Royal Fuck-up
3/13/12 Dad: My First Sex Object
5/28/12 Remembering Dad on Memorial Day

The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God

12/20 Yes, God Loves Us.
12/22 What If Jesus Were Bi?

 

Tripping: My Take on Some So-Called Gay Travel Hotspots

5/2/11 The Pig Vacation Planner
9/29, 10/1/10 San Francisco: Resting on Its Gay Laurels?
11/19-21/10 Key West Techno
12/11, 12/10 California Dreaming
4/15/11 Tampa and St. Pete’s
5/14/12 St. Pete’s Revisited
4/13/11 New Orleans
4/14/11 Chicago
7/14, 15/12 Montreal: Land of the Uncut 2010 vs. 2012
4/22/11 London, Paris
1/12/11 Seattle Seedy   
8/5-8/12 Cruising and Making It In Berlin

 Hangin’ in So Flo (South Florida)

 3/29/11 Hanging in SoFlo
10/16/11 Sebastian Beach, Fort Lauderdale’s Gay Sandbox
3/30, 31/11 Haulover: SoFlo’s Nude Beach
4/2/11 The Bar Scene for the Str8 Gay Man
1/10/11 Blowing A Load: Places to Have Sex (Legally) in Lauderdale

 

Florida’s Gay Campgrounds

2/05/12 Campground Cruising
11/5, 6/10 Cockteasing at Sawmill Campgrounds
7/5/12 No Life On Mars (Mars, Florida’s Gay Campgrounds That Is Is)
12/12/11;7/28/12 Vitambi Springs

 

28 Aug

For the past two years I’ve posted my daily blog, “Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man” where I’ve pontificated on just about facet of American gay subculture from sex (of course) to politics to hot spots to what I think makes us tick. All from the perspective of an ordinary gay man who’s seen and lived it all: Heady Gay Liberation, the Wild and Wicked Yet Strangely Innocent 70’s, the Genocidal 80’s, the Hesitant 90’s, right through the 21st Century Techno Obsession where we are today. Both a blessing and a curse, it has forever changed the gay landscape.

There are some of you who have applauded and lauded me for telling it like it is, not like the all-so-politically-correct gay pundits and activists tell us it should be; and there are others who have reviled me as a an arrogant, myopic, self-centered, heartless, uncaring,  narcissist deceiving asshole  – all true.  So be it. It’s my blog and I’ve said want I wanted to say; if you think differently, go write your own. That’s why God – not Al Gore – invented the internet.

I’ve also shared with you some of my most intimate experiences with the men I’ve known, loved and even slept with. And yes, what I told you was pretty much as it happened – no fiction writing here. Most of my encounters over the years have been mundane, even pedestrian, a few comical, a few hauntingly frightful, and a handful – maybe five in a lifetime – iconic, the kind of encounters and relationships gay men live for.

Yes, I guess I’ve been lucky.

But now I feel I’ve said just about all I wanted to say, and that it’s time to hang up my jockstrap, figuratively at least, and move on to other creative endeavors like my third work of gay fiction.

But who knows? I may return some day here to let it all hang out again with some more true confessions of a str8 gay man. After all, when it comes to being gay,  or living, never say never. You may also want to check my new blog, “A Furry Man’s Journal” at furrymansjournal.com, debuting September 15.

Meanwhile for the curious, below is a directory by subject of all the BS I’ve posted – Yikes! Did I write all that? – just in case one cold and lonely night you get bored with your favorite porn.

And if you’re in the mood for some raunchy gay tales with a film noir flair, check out my other site, erotic-gay-fiction.com; or my e-books on Amazon.com’s Kindle or Barnes and Nobles’ (bn.com) Nook, “Basic Butch” and “Not in It For the Love” under me, RP Andrews.

“Basic Butch” is my collection of edgy short stories set in some of America’s leading gay venues, New York, Chicago, Houston, and Fort Lauderdale and involve characters – gay men and women – whose arrogant, aggressive natures lead them down life paths they wished they had never explored. Walks on the beach these stories ain’t.

“Not In It For the Love,” a novella, is the story of Josh, an 18 year old psychopathic Florida drifter, whose body and cocky attitude are all he has to offer the world. Bishop, a successful Wall Street power broker, convinces Josh to leave the life of a cheap motel hustler and come away with him to Manhattan where he introduces him to The Good Life as his trophy boy. Yet for Josh, sex remains a momentary pleasure, or more often, a commodity for sale, and killing – beginning with his own parents – a practical way to make problems go away. And when Hylan, a fellow drifter, enters his life, Josh realizes killing is the only way for him to hold on to what matters. That is, until 9/11 changes everything.

For more, check out the pages listed under my blog masthead

Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man Subject Directory

Below is a directory of the subjects I’ve posted since I started Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man for your virgin enjoyment or hardcore rediscovery. Use the date and the monthly archive in the lower right column to retrieve.

Category headings:

  • The Gay Psyche
  • Gay Culture
  • Gay Issues and Politics
  • Man Make-over
  • Sex and Where To Find It
  • My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man
  • Gay Personas
  • Relationships
  • Playing the Web
  • Friends, Family And Holidays
  • The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God
  • Tripping: My Take on Some So-called Gay Travel Hotspots
  • Hangin’ Loose in SoFlo (South Florida)
  • Florida’s Gay Campgrounds  

The Gay Psyche

7/19/10 The Silent Majority
7/21, 22/10 Shades of Gay
7/20/10 The New Millennium Gay Lexicon
9/7/10 The Homophobic Homosexual
1/15/11 One Guy’s Lament: “I Hate Being Gay. It’s a Lonely, Miserable Life”
8/14,15/10 Telling Your World
2/15/11 What We Look For In a Man
8/3/10 Looking for Mr. Good Dick
2/17/11 How Far Would You Go For Mr. Right?
2/24/11 Kodak Moments
9/8.10,11/10 Forty Years Post Gay Liberation: What Went Wrong?
5/12, 13/11 The Male Gay Baby Boomer
8/28, 29/10 The Inferiority/Superiority Meter: Our Fragile Egos in Overdrive
2/27/11 What’s Gauche in Straight life is Hot in Gaydom
12/15/10 Me, Myself and I: Super Egos
5/7/11 You Ready for Retirement? (I don’t mean from sex, dude)
1/21/11 Canine Obsession
5/10/11 Rite of Passage
5/5/11 What the Fuck?! Crazy People, Crazy Moments
1/24, 26/11 Ten Minutes Left in the Candy Store: Coming Out Late in Life
5/17/11 Gay Happiness
3/21/12 Age and Attitude
3/23/12 Twenty Somethings: The Pan Sexual Generation?
3/24/12 The Warren Beatty Complex

 

Gay Culture

1/9/11 Is There Really a Gay Community?
8/4/10 The Guy Bar: An Endangered Species?
10/22,23,24/10 The U.S. Leather Scene: On Life Support?
 5/16/11 The Gay Gap: Segregation from Without – and Within
11/16/10 Twenty Somethings: The Pan-Sexual Generation?
10/13/10 Personal Reflections on the Gay Bullying Epidemic
4/23/11 Gay Double Speak
4/25/11 The Gay Nude Sub-Culture
8/9, 10/10 “Don’t Flush for Piss:” The Sleaze Factor
1/7/11 The Next Best Gay Bar
4/24/11 Gay Pride: Proud About What?
8/22/10 “You Party?”
2/24/11 Girley Man
11/17/10 Gays and Their Cell Phones, iphones, Blackberrys, etc.
1/22/11 Cruising in Limbo
1/30/11 My Beef with Men’s Fitness Magazine
11/7/10;4/16/12 Is Logo Exploitation Television? Is Logo Going Str8?
9/3/10 Was “Queer as Folk” For Real?
2/6/11 Stalkers
1/5/11 Gay Guys and Their Girl Friends
1/28/11 Oz vs. Kansas: The Urban Scene vs. Rural Nowhere
11/29/10 Lauderdale’s Leather Masked Ball
10/29/10 Halloween, South Florida Style
1/23/11 Lauderdale’s Top Gay “Professions”
11/26/10 SoFlo Tourists: A Necessary Evil
1/3/11 My 2020 Predictions for Gay Life
11/01/12 Beefcake TV: It’s About Fucken Time!
4/13/11 Florida’s Gay Rodeo: No Brokeback Mountain
3/6/12 Trouble in Gaytown?
3/8/12 “Cruising,” The Movie: A Gay Docudrama Of How It Was
3/22/12 The F Word (F for “Fag”)
3/22/12 Living in Tinseltown (South Florida)
3/30/12 Are American Men As Stupid As TV, Movies, Advertising Make Them Out To Be?
4/7/12 Wake Up Guys! Gay Cruises, Gay Days: They’re Not about Acceptance, They’re All About Our $$$
4/11/12 “My Week With Marilyn”: Michelle, I Knew Marilyn and You’re No Marilyn
4/9,12/12 Transgenderism Part of Gay Culture? Transgender This!
4/17/12 Gay Society’s One Percent
4/18/12 Gay History: Do The Young’ens Know? Or Even Care?
4/21/12 The Gay Rodeo’s in Town! OK and?
4/26/12  My Top Ten Worse Fag Bad Habits Out of the Bedroom
5/13/12 Lauderdale’s Beach Bear Weekend: More Social Than Sex

Gay Issues and Politics

10/8/10 Power in Numbers: We Could Fill the State of Texas and Then Some!
10/10/10 Gays and Adoption: Big News in the Sunshine State
12/19/10;1/15/12 It’s About Fucken Time: Gays and the Military
12/13,14/10 The AIDS Crisis: Victims, Self Inflicted
10/25,26/11 Gay Marriage Reality Check Time
12/1/11 What To Do About Florida’s AIDS Crisis NOW
12/20/11 Feds Say Real Estate Flipping Caused the Bust: How Gays Contributed To the Mess
12/28/11          White Party BS: When The Fuck Is AIDS Resource Gonna Wake Up?
1/13/12 Profanity on Broadcast TV: Hey Supreme Court? Ever Watch “Two & a Half Men?”
1/15/12 Flattery From the Pope
3/11/12 The HIV Health Care Access Working Work Policy: The Devil’s in The Details
3/13/12 “Pill Anyone?”: The Contraception Controversy
3/19/12 On The Subject of Marriage (Again)
12/4/11 Repealing DOMA Is Critical to Making Gay Marriage Work
4/21/12 Some More Good News Re. Gay Marriage
4/25/12 HIV Stigma Sucks.com
5/11/12 Is The Whole Gay Marriage Thing Going Down The Crapper?
5/15/12 Coming Out for Gay Marriage May Be the Dumbest Thing Obama Has Done
5/18/12 AIDS: Why Are We Still Even Talking About It?
6/13/12 Gay Marriage Showdown Destined for the Supreme Court?

 

Man Make-Over

2/28/11 Getting in Shape for Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now)
3/1, 2/11 Working Out and More Tales from the Gym
3/3,4/11 Cosmetic Surgery
3/5, 6/11 Rejuvenation Therapy: Mr. T and More

 

Sex and Where to Get It

2/27/11 So What Are You Looking For NOW?
8/11/10 The Dickter (as in Rickter) Scale
2/8/11 The Perfect Cock, the Perfect Butt: What’s Your Favorite?
2/4/11 What’s YOUR Body Count?
8/30, 9/1/10 A Hard Dick Is Hard To Find: America’s Erection Crisis
2/12, 13/11 What Happened To Lust?
2/7/11 Getting it Up and Keeping It Up: Those Magic Pills
2/9/11 Getting It Up and Keeping It Up: It’s All in Your Head
11/15/10 The Comings and Goings of Cumming
3/7, 8, 9/11 Baths and Sex Clubs
3/11, 10/11 Rating the Hook-up Sites
3/12/11 Making a Scene: Public Sex
1/8/11 Fuck Buddy Groups
8/5/10 The Fine Art of Cocksucking
2/22/11 Is Cocksucking a Lost Art?
1/16/11 Oral Only, Anyone?
5/5/11 The Magic Triangle
10/8,9/10 Bearcrashing
11/14, 11/29/10 Huge Cocks: Is Bigger Really Better?
11/27, 28/10 Underwear Nite at the Ramrod
12/4/10 Extreme Sex: X Marks The Spot
12/5, 6/10 This Hand Was Made for Fisting
12/8/10 Asphyxiation: How Tight Do You Want It?
12/10 Scat: Dirty Little Secrets
9/15/10 Fetishes: Strange Bedfellows
3/17, 18/11 Second Hand Sex
2/11/11 Talking Dirty
4/26-30/11 Picking Up Str8 Guys
2/10/11 Being a Pig Ain’t All Fun
1/31/11 Double Booking
3/28/11 7 Men, 32 Hours
3/14, 15, 16/11 Midnight At The Oasis: Friday Nite at The Local Sex Club
4/3/11 Rim Away!
1/2/12 Hard-on Day Dreaming
1/18/12 Getting Off the Assembly Editing Way
1/26/12 When Is Sex Addiction Not Sex Addiction
2/16/12 The Tina Fuck (No, Not Fuck Tina) Diet
3/11/12 The Res-Erection of Barebacking
3/18/12 The Way of All Flesh
3/18/12 Bottoms Up!
3/25, 4/30/12 What Would You Do If You Couldn’t Have Sex for A Year?
3/29/12 Not Happy With the Size of Your Dick?
4/6/12 Total Tops, Total Bottoms
4/11/12 What I’ve Learned About Fucking Men From Fucking Men
4/14/12 Is In-The-Flesh Sex Losing Out to Cyber Sex?
4/27/12 They Should Call It P-Pad (P for Porn)
4/28/12 My Top Worse Fag Habits in the Bedroom
5/3/12 So What’s My Fantasy? My REAL Fantasy?
6/26/12 The New Meat Syndrome
6/27/12 So What’s One Way for a Sex Pig to Go Celibate?
6/27/12 Go Fuck Yourself (Now You Can!)
7/1/12 Drugs and Sex: Inseparable?
7/21/12 Going Versatile

 

My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man

8/21/10 It’s All About The Fur
2/21/11 My Life as a Furry Guy
2/23/11 Furry Backs
2/25, 26/11 Hairy Men I Have Known, Loved and Even Slept With
6/14-16/11 My Month as a Rentboy
2/17/12 My 15 Minutes of Fame (More Like 57) In Porn
3/16/12 I’m An Older Gay Man Who Likes Older Guys But …
5/30,31;6/1/12 The Memorial Day Weekend Diary of a Pig
6/13/12 Hirsute Phobia
7/8, 9/12 The Two Most Sensual Hours in My Life With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
7/10, 11/12 Friday Night and Saturday Morning: More With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known
8/17, 18/12 How My Last Blow-Out with The Sexiest Man in My Life Almost Became the Nightmare of My Life
9/11/11 9-11: I Was There.

Gay Personas

 4/3/11 Technos
4/5/11 Bears
4/7/11 Muscle Bears
8/20/10 The Belt Loop Boys
4/4/11 Peter Pans and Tinker Bells
4/8/11 Closet Cases
4/9/11 Bi’s
4/10/11 Extremos
4/6/11 Flickers
5/15/11 A Tale of Two Men
1/29/11 Party Boy
10/17/10 The Perfect Fuck
12/23/10 Airheads
12/1,3/10 This Dad Has Two Sons
1/17/11 On Your Knees: My Born Again Manhunt Hook-up
12/27-31/10 Meth Heads: Ode to Mitch
3/18/12 A Boy and His Dog
3/20/12 The 2012 Airhead of The Year Award
3/21/12 The New Age Flasher
3/26/12 Career Gays vs. Professional Gays
4/20/12 The Flypaper Boys
4/27/12 The Asshole of the Month Award
5/2/12 Klone Kevin
5/4/12 So What’s a Daddy Dick?
5/5/12 Heterosexists
6/21/12 Silent Sex: Making it with a Deaf Guy

 

 Relationships

For my blogs on Gay Marriage see “Gay Issues and Politics”

8/2310 “Seeking LTR”: You Sure About That?
2/14/11 Gay LTR’s: Fantasy or Fact?
2/18/11 Making Relationships Work: Do’s and Don’ts
9/25/10 Monogamy: Another Gay Myth
9/12/10 Signs Something’s Amiss (in Your LTR)
8/12/10 Fuck Buddies
2/16/11 Partners Vs. Fuck Buddies: Who’s Better?
2/19/11 Fuckin’ Around (and Married)
9/26, 27/10 Threesomes: Utterly Decadent or Somewhat Problematic?
2/20/11 So You’re Calling It Quits: Getting Out Gracefully
2/2/11 Boys Don’t Cry: Are We Adult Males or Love Sick Adolescent Girls?
3/31/12 Ten Reasons Why Taking My Partner to Key West Was A Mistake
4/8/12 Monogamy Double Talk
4/18/12 Honesty in Relationships
4/25/12 He’s There Somewhere. Waiting. Waiting for You.
7/22/12 Those Who Don’t Have an LTR Want One, Those That Do, Want Out
8/3/12  Excess Baggage

 

 Sex Slots: Playing The Web

3/19/11 The Web: The New Millennium’s Gay Addiction
7/28/10 Confessions of a Cyber-spike Addict
3/20/11 Cyberspikes: Almost As Good As You Know What
3/21, 22/11 What Works and Doesn’t in a Web Profile
10/20/10?? Family Albums
3/25/11 “Caution: You Have Just Entered The No Fuck Zone.”
3/23, 24/11 Hook-up Fuck-offs, Cyberstyle
3/26, 27/11 Cyber Mindfuckers
2/5/11 Will These Web Boys Shit or Get Off the Pot?
5/5/11 Reading Between The Lines
5/4/11 “BTW, I want let you know I’m Poz, if that’s OK with you”
5/1/11 Are The Hook-up Sites Getting Prudish?
9/4/10 Web Hook-ups from Hell: Cruising in Craig Country
1/16/12 Chat with Some Hunk in Dubai Lately?
3/26/12 Thank the Gay God For My Midnight IM Saviors
4/5/12 How To Reply to a Totally Unsolicited Web Hit
4/24/12 How NOT to Hit Up a Guy You Really Want on the Web
5/1/12 Get Ur &&;LA DY ##hOT 2niTE With a {tOOL th at deLIVERES
5/3/12 Hook-up Gems
5/4/12 Wireless Café
5/23/12 Hey Dude, You’re Fucken Hot, I’d Loving Getting Together But …
6/13/12 Front Page News in South Florida: Grindr!
6/27/12 Odd Man Out – More Web Weirdies
6/27/12 He Sounds Like A Great Guy, But …
6/29/12 The Web:A Numbers Game, & Like Vegas, the Odds Are Against You

 

Friends, Family and Holidays

8/17, 18/10 Friends of the Friendless
12/19/10 Friends, Vacation and Fucking
12/21/10 Why I Hate The Holidays
5/8/11 Memories of My Own “Mommie Dearest”
12/21/11 Christmas Cheer?
4/22, 23/12 When Alien Worlds Collide: Boring Suburban Relatives vs. Evil Urban Me
5/13/12 My Mother’s Day Royal Fuck-up
3/13/12 Dad: My First Sex Object
5/28/12 Remembering Dad on Memorial Day

The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God

12/20 Yes, God Loves Us.
12/22 What If Jesus Were Bi?

 

Tripping: My Take on Some So-Called Gay Travel Hotspots

5/2/11 The Pig Vacation Planner
9/29, 10/1/10 San Francisco: Resting on Its Gay Laurels?
11/19-21/10 Key West Techno
12/11, 12/10 California Dreaming
4/15/11 Tampa and St. Pete’s
5/14/12 St. Pete’s Revisited
4/13/11 New Orleans
4/14/11 Chicago
7/14, 15/12 Montreal: Land of the Uncut 2010 vs. 2012
4/22/11 London, Paris
1/12/11 Seattle Seedy   
8/5-8/12 Cruising and Making It In Berlin

 Hangin’ in So Flo (South Florida)

 3/29/11 Hanging in SoFlo
10/16/11 Sebastian Beach, Fort Lauderdale’s Gay Sandbox
3/30, 31/11 Haulover: SoFlo’s Nude Beach
4/2/11 The Bar Scene for the Str8 Gay Man
1/10/11 Blowing A Load: Places to Have Sex (Legally) in Lauderdale

 

Florida’s Gay Campgrounds

2/05/12 Campground Cruising
11/5, 6/10 Cockteasing at Sawmill Campgrounds
7/5/12 No Life On Mars (Mars, Florida’s Gay Campgrounds That Is Is)
12/12/11;7/28/12 Vitambi Springs

 

What Now?

27 Aug

I write this from my summer home – George’s and my summer home in Dingmans Ferry, PA, loosely the Poconos, contemplating quietly, with no bar specials or sex club leather nights or “I want It now” web postings to distract me, my life torn between the two worlds I live in.

One world is here more spiritually than even physically with George, who I’ve known two thirds of my life, once a handsome and hunky Omar Sharif look-a-alike,  now old in body and in outlook, obstinate, uncompromising, arrogant, argumentative, and judgmental,  yet the most masculine gay man I will ever know, conservative in thought like me but utterly unbending to the new ways and views of this Brave New Gay World, and suffering from macular degeneration that threatens his sight though his rigid ego won’t allow him to admit he still needs me. As I, in some strange way, still need him.

My other world is 1340 miles away in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, Gaytown, U.S.A.,  Home of the Beautiful People,  some benign good fucks, others devils wearing Prada, steeped in unholy sex and holiest of holy  drugs, searching for playmates to drag down into hell with them.

So which world do I live in? Which world will I choose? Or which world have I already chosen?

I’ll be up here until Labor Day and have decided, after two years, to bring “Confessions” to an abrupt  end – at least for now. I’ve said all I wanted to say about the foibles and fallacies of gay culture as I see it, and have shared a lifetime’s worth of experiences, some decades old, some as fresh as yesterday, with you my audience out there in the depths of cyberspace. Because right now I just need to think – think quietly whether George comes back with me to Florida and we lead the stereotypical  suburban life so many of our brothers share – and some even relish in  – or whether I move on and continue to bed down with an occasional pretty man in between all the shit, just to make me still feel desired, still feel wanted.

After all, isn’t feeling wanted what’s it all about?

Or is it?

From Guest Blogger Edmon Armstrong: “Is Your Gaydar Working? No?”

27 Aug

Gaydar: A colloquialism referring to the intuitive ability of a person to assess others’ sexual orientation as gay, bisexual or heterosexual.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t do any of that. I am somewhat of a people watcher. I sit in the mall all the time just looking at people walk by. I can tell when someone has a medical issue or disability, needs to pee, needs to fart, hell, even when someone is horny. The one thing I need the most to make it in this world is the one thing I don’t have.

A Gaydar.

I don’t know how many times I have wasted my time at a club, gym or school cruising a guy only for him to end up straight. How in the hell am I to know your straight if you’re in a gay club with a 40 dollar haircut and smell like  Bed Bath and Beyond. I love the fact that straight guys feel comfortable to come to a gay club, but can someone put a damn button on them saying “I’m straight.”

The gym is just confusing for me. I try to put out all the gay matting calls when there. I try the look, you know what I mean: I want to take you out to dinner look (not the; I want to fuck you look/ I am so going to kill you later look). They respond  with a puzzled look on their face as to way you keep checking them out, for the guys in the gym looking to show off they get off on it, but they are not gay. I also try doing the workout and sweat technique. I work out fast and sweat hard, you have to get those muscles out there (mostly every person looks good when wet; Most). All this ever gets me is to the point of passing out on the floor (if I can make it to the locker room I just sit in a stall for a min or 10).

School on the other hand is a lot more open for young gay guys to find their way. Ok, I’m just fucking with you, this is even harder than the gym and club combined. In our ever changing life’s gay and straight lines are completely blurred in high school and college. I know you would say do stuff gay guys are in to, tried that, mostly straight. I liked this guy named J (for this part of my life no full names) who whenever we were alone we had this chemistry you could cut with a knife. I have had straight guys who are very touchy feely and even flirt with you from time to time, but yet again they are not going home with you. End the end like so many gay movies in the main stream. The gay boy ends up alone, but he learned his lesson.

I don’t know what people with gaydar see: body language, hand movement, clothes, hair, voice or shoes. All I know is that I am a gay boy lost in the very small gay forest. I envy our straight counter parts in one way; they can walk down the street without a care in the world and hit on who ever walks by. For us gay in this world we have to pick and choice when to put out a matting call because ours could lead to a bashing and we don’t want that.

Editor’s note from RP Andrews: I’ve addressed the growing “blending” of the gay scene that was once a secret society a few times in my past blogs; Edmon confirms the negatives of what happens when everything is so open – maybe a little too open.  

You can find more of Edmon’s perspective at his own blogsite, edmonarmstrong.blogspot.com. Or tweet him at Writing Boy@EdmonArmstrong.

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