Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man

.. and picked up my promo piece on my “Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man” and my gay fiction work at either the Alibi or the Ramrod, the complete version of “Hooked,” the story I excerpted from in my promo can be found in its entirety in my  posting of October 29 on my other blog, gay-erotic-fiction.com. Check the archives.

Remember that childhood fable of the Emperor who walked around in his undies, but none of his subjects would say a word for fear he’d cut off their heads?

Well, what’s with the ultra-conservative, right wing Republicans and Tea Party followers and Santorum? They exalt him as if they were the German populaces of the 1930’s and he was Hitler, following the Conservative company script hook, line and sinker.

Do they really believe independents like me who will make the next election, as we have in the past, even consider him? Hell, the fucken guy scares the shit out of me!  The Pubs’ other candidates, including Romney, may say they’re for family values and traditional marriage, yada, yada, yada, but this guy, Santorum, is a Zealot, stuck in some 1956 time warp, totally out of touch with Today’s America.

Fuck his views on gay marriage. They’re vanilla, no sprinkles, compared to his earlier treatises before he started campaigning, where he likened homosexuality to bestiality. He says if he became President he would restore “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” so, I guess, the military could start losing some its most valued and highly trained personnel all over again.  And as for abortion and women’s rights …

BTW, why did Santorum lose the 2006 Senatorial race in Pennsylvania?

Quoting an article that appeared recently in Bloomburg Business Week: “Santorum’s loss was the largest defeat by a Republican United States senator seeking election or re-election in modern Pennsylvania history … Santorum was putting an emphasis on the cultural issues (i.e. gay rights), which didn’t sit well with independent, suburban swing voters in this state. … Santorum’s 2006 loss came after he was accused by Democrats of being hypocritical for moving his family to suburban Virginia, yet still claiming a property tax deduction and tuition reimbursement in Pennsylvania.”

I guess that makes him a defender of family values after all, huh?

The stupidest, stupidest thing the Pubs could do – or the smartest if you’re a Dem – would be to make Santorum their candidate.

I know February is not exactly the month to be talking about visiting Chicago but soon it will be spring and the Windy City is definitely worth exploring.

Chicagoans I’ve recently met or fucked with down here in sunny Lauderdale tell me most of the gay action has shifted north to Andersonville from Halsted, which I habitually stay in because its bohemian character reminds of NYC’s West Village of old. So I’m the first to admit this assessment of Chicago may not be a fair one.

Let me start out with what I don’t like about the Windy City (besides its winters):

The cost of hotels in The Halsted.

Sure, you might get a Travelocity special for some swanky hotel on the Miracle Mile, but that’s way downtown. What do you want to do, be surrounded by snooty straights and hike over to the Scene every night, when you can stay within walking distance of everything? The problem is a hotel on Belmont, one of Halsted’s main drags, called City Suites that used to be cheap was absorbed by some luxury chain and now is super-priced. There’s a quaint little gay bed and breakfast hideaway right in the heart of it all, and where I usually stay, but it, too, is on the pricey side for a basement cell where you couldn’t tell whether it was day or night. A Days Inn within reasonable proximity of the scene is perpetually booked every time I’ve checked out dates.

The bear and leather clubs.

Granted, I’ve never been there for IML so what I’m telling you here applies on a typical, non-descript weekend. (Like I said, I’ve avoided IML since I feel my chances of getting laid during festival celebrations like IML go down as the hunk factor rises).

Touche’s is a $20 cab ride from The Halsted and, frankly, on the Saturday night I went, it was not worth the fare. The Cell Block, walking distance from that gay bed and breakfast and ironically a stone’s throw from that bastion of jockness, Wrigley Field, had once been one of the few leather bars left in the U.S. that enforced a dress code in its back bar. Ah, but no more. On my last trip, I found the whole place rather empty for a weekend night with barely a harness in sight. It has morphed into a sad little neighborhood bar.

Tomorrow: What I do like.

…and down here in sun-drenched Lauderdale, it’s one of the Winter Season’s busiest, with our Sebastian Beach wall-to-wall men, bars like the Alibi and Ramrod fire hazards, our sex club Slammers loaded, our restaurants filled, and our guesthouses booked.

So what do all these gay guys from up North or the four corners of the world who spend a fortune to come here do once they’re here? Stare at their phones, checking out mobile Manhunt or Grinder, not the hottie staring at them; stay stuck like crazy-glue to their buddies, rather than “mingle;” stroll the beach or the bars eyes locked straight ahead and a puss on their faces like they had taken prunes that morning and they hadn’t worked; or pass on a few dangling dicks at their guesthouse’s clothing optional pool as they wait for God.

My bud Bill had a trick over the weekend at one of the guesthouses and after the two of them were done, they wandered down to the secluded fuck-around patio area, complete with gloryholes. (I guess even the guesthouses have realized they have to compete with Slammers.) And there, sitting butt naked in a lounge chair was a real, real good lookin’ thirty something guy, legs slovenly spread, playing with himself. A few guys, including Bill’s brief tryst, tried to, well, help the guy out, but up came the hand. No, he had at least four mouths that would have loved to devour his handsome big cock and take his load, but Pretty Guy chose to continue doing it solo, shot his load, got up and went back to his room.

Thank the fucken Gay God I had my fun when the fun was still to be had.

As I ventured into the crowd of men that Saturday night at Montreal’s Eagle Noir, I was pleasantly surprised to find that a gay art that I had thought had long died – good old fashioned eye-to-eye cruising – was alive and well. One built mother fucker, apparently with no agenda since he was with a bunch of his clones, gestured to me in the crowd and shouted, “You know how hot you are?” Then there was the tall, burly, dark bearded man with the sloppy black T who said nothing but eyed, stroked or groped me each time our bodies rubbed against one another in the crowd. Maybe not drunk enough, or a bit intimated by his stature, I didn’t make the next move.

So who should I rub furry bellies with a half an hour later within the tight hallways of GI Joe’s, my kind of bath house, than my dark handsome stranger who smiled broadly and asked for my room number.

Emile’s English was spotty but we weren’t connecting to discuss American-Canadian relations, and after we had caressed and kissed and played and came, I turned to Emile and asked softly, “c’est bon?” Stroking my beard, he replied with that sexy broad smile of his, “oui, c’est bon.”

At the airport that Monday morning, waiting for my flight to be called, I decided to squeeze in breakfast at the restaurant across from my gate and unload what I could of my remaining Canadian dollars. I placed my order and went to the john and when I returned to my table, my waitress was just strolling over with my cheese omelet and coffee.

“See,” she said all “hope this gets me a nice tip” cheery-like, “timing is everything in life.”

Thinking back to my weekend’s hunting, I nodded. “It sure is.”

Now I didn’t mention that my financial planners back in Lauderdale who love Montreal and suggested it to me as a weekend getaway even have a cute, hung hottie hidden away there who they visit on a semi-regular basis or who visits them down in our Gay Sandbox.

I think the next time I go, hopefully this coming summer, maybe I can get lucky too and line up a traveling fuck buddy to help improve American-Canadian relations on a very personal level.

Tomorrow – Chicago: The Windy City With Some Steam

Knowing my guest house, Maison des Jardins, had wi-fi, I schlepped my laptop with me to close in on the half a dozen or so webmen I had gotten some preliminary commitments from before I left Florida, and to take advantage of the “I want it now” boys. Two of my pre-arranged tricks proved disappointing, another suddenly came down with the bubonic plague and wouldn’t be able to connect, and a third had such an erratic work schedule that he was ONLY available after 11 on Friday night, my one and only Friday night to explore gay Montreal. Oh, but I’d wait for him. Sure.

On a positive note, there was Jacques, a forty-something, long haired computer tech, a Daddy Hunt find, with a typical French Canadian swimmers build, uncut cock, and some fur, who biked over to my place where we enjoyed a hard dicked Friday afternoon liaison; and Eduardo, all of 35, and yes, also intact, who e’d me on Bear 411 at 8:30 on Saturday night, was on my couch by 10, and out with smiles on both our faces by twenty of 11. Efficient.

Daytime I played typical tourist, walking over to Old Montreal which, with its quaint eighteenth century architecture, nicely scrubbed cobble stone streets and overpriced cafes and souvenir shops, resembled a carefully orchestrated Disney theme park; or Mount Royal, a few metro stops from the Village, where I got my aerobic work-out of the weekend, climbing to the top where a former chateau and a panoramic view of the City awaited me.

I was flattered that a bearish young cub on 411 had invited me to an orgy he was hosting at his place Saturday night, but I’d have to take the Metro in a strange town and you never knew whether the set universe of guys at a sex fest would be to your liking or you to theirs. So, instead, I opted for the strip.

After hitting Le Stud, populated with more of my kind of men but mostly paired off on the dance floor, I drifted over the Eagle Noir, hosting an auction to send their guy to IML, to rendezvous with yet another website possibility: Pierre, 43, 5-9, not much fur but honestly handsome, a tight gymnast body and goatee, and a college instructor like me. We connected all right but he kept rattling on in broken English about some ex-lover and even when we mutually groped in a dark corner, pulling up our T’s and reaching into one another’s levis, he insisted he couldn’t go back with me: (a) because he knew my hosts, Rob and Luc (so? were they waiting up for me like some anxious parents to approve whom I had taken home?); and (b) because even though he and his partner no longer had sex, they still lived together and somehow it wouldn’t be right.

I wish I had known how to say “cut the bullshit” in French at that moment. Instead, dripping but not yet ready to head over to GI Joe’s, the bath house where I had encountered my first legion of thick uncut cocks the night before, I smiled a polite au vois and re-entered the sea of new prospects back in the bar – shirtless.

What happened next tomorrow.

On my short list of North American gay vacation spots I’d never been to and was still interested in seeing were Palm Springs and Montreal. Along the way, I consulted out-of-town tricks about their experiences at both. Palm Springs sounded hot but all I pictured was some plastic moneyed crowd transplanted from Logo West Hollywood.  Plus, I had never gotten a hit from anyone there on any of the half dozen sex websites I subscribed to. Montreal men, on the other hand, with their muscle and their fur, came onto me plenty, so it didn’t take much to finally make up my mind where to spend a long weekend last spring out of town.

All I can say, while I must confess I prefer circed men, I never saw or had so many uncut guys in my life in so short a time in one place.

My financial planners in Lauderdale  – gay, happily partnered to each other and Montreal devotees  – recommended a small, non-descript guesthouse just a few blocks from St. Catherine, the Gay Village’s Main Street. Maison des Jardins’ proprietors, Rob and Luc, cute, hot, in-shape and seasoned, made me the virgin vacationer in their new top floor apartment suite, complete with its own private entrance and deck. The place was so spacious I could have had three orgies going on simultaneously and the guys from one sexfest wouldn’t have run into the guys from the others.

I have to say having everything on an eight block or so stretch of St. Catherine – the bars, clubs, restaurants and enough bath houses for five urban hubs – made cruising and playing extremely convenient. I also felt a great sense of community, more than even in places like NYC’s Chelsea I left back in the early 2000’s. Here, guys held hands, or embraced or kissed on the street (on the cheeks and the lips) very matter of factly, not to show off or draw attention.

But while, yes, that first day, hearing and seeing French made me feel like I had hopped a plane and gone to Europe, by Saturday the gibberish had gotten a little irritating and just a bit elitist like I had felt when surrounded by the real Les McCoy’s on a visit to Paris two winters ago. For a heavily trafficked tourist area in a country that, after all, is officially bilingual, many of the twinks who staffed the shops or restaurants or even the bath house windows knew about as much English as I remembered of my high school French.  About the only person who impressed me with her bi-linguistic expertise was my black shoe polish haired, multi-tatted, nose-ringed waitress at the outdoor café I frequented for dunch who switched from French to English like I would go from chewing a trick’s left tit to his right.

Also apparent, particularly that late Friday afternoon at the very popular beer bust of one of the roof top bars, was the same generational divide between the young, often effeminate guys with their 28 inch waists, and the older seasoned men that I witnessed in most other urban gay ghettos including my own Lauderdale. At least one good thing: they all weren’t umbilically connected to their I-phones or blackberrys checking out Grinders like those cell-obsessed faggots back in sunny Florida.

More of the Land of the Uncut tomorrow.

It used to be if you were going on vacation where the tourist sites were secondary on your agenda and meeting local hotties first, or on a business trip where you knew your associates would be drunk early enough in the evening to allow you play time, you made damn well sure you had the latest edition of Damron’s Gay Guide. You would look up the bars and baths for the spot or city you were visiting, and hang around late one evening at work til everyone left so you could copy those pages and not have to haul the whole guide with you.

You tried to get a map of the city so you could plot out in advance where the places were (usually in the most obscure, shitty areas); or hope the hotel where you were staying or local cabbie could help. You were especially interested if the city had a bath house; this would not guarantee but at least raise your chances you would have some action and not be at the total mercy of the bars. After all, where else would you meet Mr. Right Now unless you blew the dough and bought a male “escort?” Right?

Well, we all know how that’s changed thanks to the web. But it still takes some advance planning and good organizational skills to make it happen. Sure, you can instantly find the local watering holes and whorehouses by just googling “Gay Sioux City.” But what about the men?

About a week before my fly out date, I’ll hit the hook-up sites like Manhunt, Daddyhunt, Daddydatter, Adam4Adam, and Bear411, among the many others, and search the often dozens of pages of listings for my play town. (Doing it much earlier than a week before doesn’t work since the guys forget you or have no idea if they’ll be free.) Sometimes the site allows you to narrow your search down to say “men, 35-50, with pics.” But it still takes hours to wade through listing after listing, making split second judgment calls on whether to look into a guy’s profile further. Funny animals, us humans, how we judge one another so cold and clinically, like the Nazis did at the death camps as they chose which new arrivals off the trains survived to work as slaves til they dropped and who was trotted off to the showers.

For me, the guy’s gotta have a face shot or at least a bod shot as his main profile pic (ass or dick shots are meaningless) to go the next step, which is open his profile to see when he last logged in (5 years ago is not encouraging); if we’re compatible in bed; and whether he’s out for sex or “just looking for friends” or announcing to the gay world “I’ve met the greatest guy ever … my soul mate.” If he looks enticing, I do a cold call with this direct, no frills message: “I’ll be in town x to x, if you wanna connect.” For an average site, I may shoot this out to a dozen or so men out of maybe 200 to 300. Thank God for cut and paste.

Though cold calls warrant no response, I include this in my message, “no need reply if not interested,” to ease the inevitable rejections. Hey, I’m not a bad looking guy, but out of the 30 or 40 guys I may hit up this way, I get responses from about ten, some replying “you’re hot but I’ll be out of town visiting my sick aunt in Yugoslavia,” and maybe quasi-commitments from 7 or 8. I always push my pre-qualifieds for a cell number since the hook-up sites don’t always operate in real time and relying solely on them to close the deal when you’re there is not a good idea. Getting a cell number also implies to some degree that the guy is for real and not stringing you along.

A lot of fucken work, dude, you say? Yep. And the pay-off? Out of the 7 or 8 who give you numbers, maybe three will actually come through, and two will be satisfying sex. The rest will usually e you four days after you’ve returned home to apologize, “sorry I missed you, hot man …when you gonna be around again?”  What, you think I got frequent flyer miles?

So, how do you fill up the rest of your dance card? By having your lap up and running in your hotel room, silly, for the “I want it now” or “lookin?” boys.

And make sure you mapquested directs from your hotel to the local bath house just in case, huh? Remember even on pig vacations, every Plan A has gotta have a Plan B.

Tomorrow: Montreal – Land of the Uncut

OK, now those of you who follow my blog know a while back I was on rentboy.com for a month (a) to do some first hand research into what it was like to be a hustler for my gay fiction writing and (b) for kicks. And while I couldn’t live off my rentboy income that month, I did have a few guys throw one hundred fifty bucks on the bureau. So at my advancing age, no complaints.

Well, it so happens Chris, a producer for San Francisco-based Pantheon Productions that specializes in older men, bear and daddy porn, was canvassing for potential new talent for some planned shooting dates in Lauderdale, saw my ad, and asked if I might be interested.

Being a career exhibitionist, rooted I think in an insecure adolescence which has made me forever seeking acceptance, I only hesitated for two reasons and not that my high school English teacher would ever see the results: would I be able to perform, i.e., keep Mr. Peter up for a four hour shoot, Viagra or no Viagra; and not so much how much I’d make but when I’d get paid.

You see, I had already been hustled by a local porn producer who when asked that question said payment would be forthcoming six to eight weeks after the shoot. Huh? And what if he snookered me? What was my recourse? Complain to the Better Business Bureau of Porn?

But Chris assured me I would be paid the day I did the shoot and that I could do a “solo” if I liked. I was still a bit gun shy til Chris added it would be just me and him and that he would provide all the arousal material I needed. With that he e- mailed over his pic. He was a youngish, tight bodied, handsome fucker complete with goatee, not some old, fat, leering troll as I imagined most porn directors to be. He apologized for not being hairy to which I replied, “Don’t worry, you’ll do.”

On the day of my junket into the world of virtual sex, I reported to one of the local guesthouses by the beach where Chris had rented a room. He met me at the door wearing only a pair of cargo shorts and was obviously pleased with my furry, equally shirtless body.

“Yep, you’re definitely daddy material,” he said with a sly smile.

After I signed my life away or I should say my images into residual-free perpetuity, we bantered around a screen name. Randy which I used on rentboy was already taken so we decided on Ray Andrews, my real first name and Andrew my middle name. I asked where Ray Andrews would surface – either Pantheonbears.com or Hotoldermales.com. “Probably both,” he went on, stroking my crotch, “you fit ‘em both real well.” I wondered if guys still bought DVD’s with all the porn on the web, and Chris concurred that that end of the business had transitioned to streaming but there was still money to be made.

All that was left was the shoot.

We started with stills of me in a jockstrap and boots, first sprawled across a chair, my legs lasciviously spread, then posed against the wall. From all angles of course.

“Nice pouch, daddy,” Chris replied as he casually let his shorts drop to the floor in between snaps.

Then came my own unveiling, and with this boyish 40 year old standing there naked in front of me, ever so often pulling on his nice cut cock which was getting hard, I had no problems in the erection department. By the time we moved to the video, he was even coming over to give me an occasional lick or two in the right places. I knew it was all for the camera, but I can’t deny this aging faggot didn’t enjoy it.

It didn’t take much to get me close and I had to actually hold back a bit so Chris got his required ten minutes of footage, zooming in closer and closer, as cum finally cascaded over my dick and the camera lingered there like some photographer for National  Geographic shooting a newly erupted volcano.

As I cleaned up, I asked Chris if he wanted me to give him some “relief” but he just gave me a kiss and said he was O.K. Spoken like a true porn coach.

“We usually pay by check but I was able get to the ATM. Cash OK?”

“No problem,” was my understated reply.

We parted cordially, he promised to look me up for a possible dynamic duo next time he was in town, and I didn’t bother to count the bills til I got back to my car. Because ATM’s only spit out twenties, he had actually overpaid me for the session – $260 instead of the $250 he had quoted when we were still in e negotiations.

I looked at my watch. I had been with Chris for exactly 57 minutes.

As a kid, I thought movie stars never grew old and today I still think film is the closest thing we have to immortality. So if I’m lucky enough to live to 97, I guess there just may be some young boy out there in cyberland still jerking off over my furry daddy bod, forever perpetualized in time one warm Lauderdale Tuesday afternoon in a room by the beach.

Tomorrow: A New Series  – My Look at Some So-Called Gay Hotspots. We begin with Planning Your Pig Vacation.

A three day nightmare in Key West with my partner (a tale for another blog) where we ate frugally and walked our asses off nonetheless left me five pounds – OMG! – five pounds heavier than my ideal fantasy rentboy weight.

But just when I thought I’d be living on celery stalks for the next two weeks, lo and behold appeared my knight in shining armor (well, sort of, he was a hairy mother fucker), Jaco, a Cape Town hottie in town on vacation who wooed me on Bear411.

Now like I’ve said before. I’m not a dopey, but if a guy’s got some goodies, well, it’s his dime not mine – right? – and I consider freebie highs as a thank you for being a good fuck. So when Jaco mentioned he had Tina in his e’s as we were in the final stages of our “when and where” (that afternoon, his place in Pompano Beach) negotiations, I replied, “np” though I knew from my sadly brief tryst with my clone meth head Mitch (see blog posted on 12/1) that Tina was great for raising the horny dial but box office poison when it came to keeping Mr. Peter ready and raging.

Jaco loved playing Boy to his Dad (c’est moi), and I must say really worshipped my Daddy Dick with his mouth before giving up his hot hairy butt. And tempted by the serpent, I was the one who coaxed him to give me just a smidgen of a hit to elevate me to Horny Heaven without knocking out my Viagra enriched boner. After all, what good’s a Daddy if he can’t make a man of his Boy?

And while Jaco was certainly delectable, a beautiful specimen with beard and fur and a dick that, when he able to get it up, surpassed mine in the size department, he was also chronologically at 37 indeed old enough to be my son which only enhanced our little Daddy-Boy performance. That and the fact that a guy who obviously liked to get fucked – a lot – thought my dick might be too big for his manhole to muster after the 4 inch daddy dick he had had the night before. (Sure, keep talking dirty to me).

We fucked and sucked and stroked and played for two hours straight until I was past my curfew and before my furry balls he so adored would be sliced off with a butter knife by my very- very-vanilla-doesn’t-want-to- have- sex-anymore-yet-is-extremely-jealous other half.

As I figured would happen, my second hit of Tina (yea I know, I know, I didn’t walk the talk) put my penis in sleep mode and me and Jaco never did exchange our man juice. Instead, I ended up jerking off four times – yes, four times –  that night at home thinking of Jaco and that glorious furry body and glorious furry butt, that is when I was able to finally wake Mr. Peter out of his drug induced slumber. Those of you who have dabbled with meth or Ecstasy know what I’m talking about. Your dick could be as soft as your prepubescent boyhood but still sensitive as hell to the touch and feel like it was a foot long and raging. But I finally managed to pop the cork on my champagne, thank you very much.

Funny, but the only interrogation I got from my other half  was why I wasn’t eating dinner – Tina also does a number on your appetite – and guess what guys? The following morning when I weighed myself, I had lost three pounds of my baby fat!

If only I could be on Tina for a week without getting addicted and pulling on my cock all night because I couldn’t sleep, and could fuck a dozen furry butts like a stallion without resorting to a penis pump between thrusts.

Hell, Jennie Craig would be out of business!

Tomorrow: My Fifteen Minutes of Fame (Actually Fifty Seven) In Porn