“Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man” is my no-holds-barred, unvarnished, introspective social commentary on Gay Life in today’s America, written from my perspective as a “str8 gay” man, a member of the great silent gay majority who do not espouse to the fluff of gay sub-culture or all its political correctness but lead quiet, ordinary lives.Some readers think I’m right on the money, others think I’m a self-centered, heartless, bigoted, narrow-minded bastard.
They’re both right. If you don’t like what you read, write your own blog.
Below is a directory of the subjects I’ve posted since I started Confessions of a Str8 Gay Man for your virgin enjoyment or hardcore rediscovery. Use the date and the monthly archive in the lower right column to retrieve.
Category headings:
- The Gay Psyche
- Gay Culture
- Gay Issues and Politics
- Man Make-over
- Sex and Where To Find It
- My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man
- Gay Personas
- Relationships
- Playing the Web
- Friends, Family And Holidays
- The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God
- Tripping: My Take on Some So-called Gay Travel Hotspots
- Hangin’ Loose in SoFlo (South Florida)
- Florida’s Gay Campgrounds
The Gay Psyche
| 7/19/10 | The Silent Majority |
| 7/21, 22/10 | Shades of Gay |
| 7/20/10 | The New Millennium Gay Lexicon |
| 9/7/10 | The Homophobic Homosexual |
| 1/15/11 | One Guy’s Lament: “I Hate Being Gay. It’s a Lonely, Miserable Life” |
| 8/14,15/10 | Telling Your World |
| 2/15/11 | What We Look For In a Man |
| 8/3/10 | Looking for Mr. Good Dick |
| 2/17/11 | How Far Would You Go For Mr. Right? |
| 2/24/11 | Kodak Moments |
| 9/8.10,11/10 | Forty Years Post Gay Liberation: What Went Wrong? |
| 5/12, 13/11 | The Male Gay Baby Boomer |
| 8/28, 29/10 | The Inferiority/Superiority Meter: Our Fragile Egos in Overdrive |
| 2/27/11 | What’s Gauche in Straight life is Hot in Gaydom |
| 12/15/10 | Me, Myself and I: Super Egos |
| 5/7/11 | You Ready for Retirement? (I don’t mean from sex, dude) |
| 1/21/11 | Canine Obsession |
| 5/10/11 | Rite of Passage |
| 5/5/11 | What the Fuck?! Crazy People, Crazy Moments |
| 1/24, 26/11 | Ten Minutes Left in the Candy Store: Coming Out Late in Life |
| 5/17/11 | Gay Happiness |
| 3/21/12 | Age and Attitude |
| 3/23/12 | Twenty Somethings: The Pan Sexual Generation? |
| 3/24/12 | The Warren Beatty Complex |
Gay Culture
| 1/9/11 | Is There Really a Gay Community? |
| 8/4/10 | The Guy Bar: An Endangered Species? |
| 10/22,23,24/10 | The U.S. Leather Scene: On Life Support? |
| 5/16/11 | The Gay Gap: Segregation from Without – and Within |
| 11/16/10 | Twenty Somethings: The Pan-Sexual Generation? |
| 10/13/10 | Personal Reflections on the Gay Bullying Epidemic |
| 4/23/11 | Gay Double Speak |
| 4/25/11 | The Gay Nude Sub-Culture |
| 8/9, 10/10 | “Don’t Flush for Piss:” The Sleaze Factor |
| 1/7/11 | The Next Best Gay Bar |
| 4/24/11 | Gay Pride: Proud About What? |
| 8/22/10 | “You Party?” |
| 2/24/11 | Girley Man |
| 11/17/10 | Gays and Their Cell Phones, iphones, Blackberrys, etc. |
| 1/22/11 | Cruising in Limbo |
| 1/30/11 | My Beef with Men’s Fitness Magazine |
| 11/7/10;4/16/12 | Is Logo Exploitation Television? Is Logo Going Str8? |
| 9/3/10 | Was “Queer as Folk” For Real? |
| 2/6/11 | Stalkers |
| 1/5/11 | Gay Guys and Their Girl Friends |
| 1/28/11 | Oz vs. Kansas: The Urban Scene vs. Rural Nowhere |
| 11/29/10 | Lauderdale’s Leather Masked Ball |
| 10/29/10 | Halloween, South Florida Style |
| 1/23/11 | Lauderdale’s Top Gay “Professions” |
| 11/26/10 | SoFlo Tourists: A Necessary Evil |
| 1/3/11 | My 2020 Predictions for Gay Life |
| 11/01/12 | Beefcake TV: It’s About Fucken Time! |
| 4/13/11 | Florida’s Gay Rodeo: No Brokeback Mountain |
| 3/6/12 | Trouble in Gaytown? |
| 3/8/12 | “Cruising,” The Movie: A Gay Docudrama Of How It Was |
| 3/22/12 | The F Word (F for “Fag”) |
| 3/22/12 | Living in Tinseltown (South Florida) |
| 3/30/12 | Are American Men As Stupid As TV, Movies, Advertising Make Them Out To Be? |
| 4/7/12 | Wake Up Guys! Gay Cruises, Gay Days: They’re Not about Acceptance, They’re All About Our $$$ |
| 4/11/12 | “My Week With Marilyn”: Michelle, I Knew Marilyn and You’re No Marilyn |
| 4/9,12/12 | Transgenderism Part of Gay Culture? Transgender This! |
| 4/17/12 | Gay Society’s One Percent |
| 4/18/12 | Gay History: Do The Young’ens Know? Or Even Care? |
| 4/21/12 | The Gay Rodeo’s in Town! OK and? |
| 4/26/12 | My Top Ten Worse Fag Bad Habits Out of the Bedroom |
| 5/13/12 | Lauderdale’s Beach Bear Weekend: More Social Than Sex |
Gay Issues and Politics
| 10/8/10 | Power in Numbers: We Could Fill the State of Texas and Then Some! |
| 10/10/10 | Gays and Adoption: Big News in the Sunshine State |
| 12/19/10;1/15/12 | It’s About Fucken Time: Gays and the Military |
| 12/13,14/10 | The AIDS Crisis: Victims, Self Inflicted |
| 10/25,26/11 | Gay Marriage Reality Check Time |
| 12/1/11 | What To Do About Florida’s AIDS Crisis NOW |
| 12/20/11 | Feds Say Real Estate Flipping Caused the Bust: How Gays Contributed To the Mess |
| 12/28/11 | White Party BS: When The Fuck Is AIDS Resource Gonna Wake Up? |
| 1/13/12 | Profanity on Broadcast TV: Hey Supreme Court? Ever Watch “Two & a Half Men?” |
| 1/15/12 | Flattery From the Pope |
| 3/11/12 | The HIV Health Care Access Working Work Policy: The Devil’s in The Details |
| 3/13/12 | “Pill Anyone?”: The Contraception Controversy |
| 3/19/12 | On The Subject of Marriage (Again) |
| 12/4/11 | Repealing DOMA Is Critical to Making Gay Marriage Work |
| 4/21/12 | Some More Good News Re. Gay Marriage |
| 4/25/12 | HIV Stigma Sucks.com |
| 5/11/12 | Is The Whole Gay Marriage Thing Going Down The Crapper? |
| 5/15/12 | Coming Out for Gay Marriage May Be the Dumbest Thing Obama Has Done |
| 5/18/12 | AIDS: Why Are We Still Even Talking About It? |
| 6/13/12 | Gay Marriage Showdown Destined for the Supreme Court? |
Man Make-Over
| 2/28/11 | Getting in Shape for Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now) |
| 3/1, 2/11 | Working Out and More Tales from the Gym |
| 3/3,4/11 | Cosmetic Surgery |
| 3/5, 6/11 | Rejuvenation Therapy: Mr. T and More |
Sex and Where to Get It
| 2/27/11 | So What Are You Looking For NOW? |
| 8/11/10 | The Dickter (as in Rickter) Scale |
| 2/8/11 | The Perfect Cock, the Perfect Butt: What’s Your Favorite? |
| 2/4/11 | What’s YOUR Body Count? |
| 8/30, 9/1/10 | A Hard Dick Is Hard To Find: America’s Erection Crisis |
| 2/12, 13/11 | What Happened To Lust? |
| 2/7/11 | Getting it Up and Keeping It Up: Those Magic Pills |
| 2/9/11 | Getting It Up and Keeping It Up: It’s All in Your Head |
| 11/15/10 | The Comings and Goings of Cumming |
| 3/7, 8, 9/11 | Baths and Sex Clubs |
| 3/11, 10/11 | Rating the Hook-up Sites |
| 3/12/11 | Making a Scene: Public Sex |
| 1/8/11 | Fuck Buddy Groups |
| 8/5/10 | The Fine Art of Cocksucking |
| 2/22/11 | Is Cocksucking a Lost Art? |
| 1/16/11 | Oral Only, Anyone? |
| 5/5/11 | The Magic Triangle |
| 10/8,9/10 | Bearcrashing |
| 11/14, 11/29/10 | Huge Cocks: Is Bigger Really Better? |
| 11/27, 28/10 | Underwear Nite at the Ramrod |
| 12/4/10 | Extreme Sex: X Marks The Spot |
| 12/5, 6/10 | This Hand Was Made for Fisting |
| 12/8/10 | Asphyxiation: How Tight Do You Want It? |
| 12/10 | Scat: Dirty Little Secrets |
| 9/15/10 | Fetishes: Strange Bedfellows |
| 3/17, 18/11 | Second Hand Sex |
| 2/11/11 | Talking Dirty |
| 4/26-30/11 | Picking Up Str8 Guys |
| 2/10/11 | Being a Pig Ain’t All Fun |
| 1/31/11 | Double Booking |
| 3/28/11 | 7 Men, 32 Hours |
| 3/14, 15, 16/11 | Midnight At The Oasis: Friday Nite at The Local Sex Club |
| 4/3/11 | Rim Away! |
| 1/2/12 | Hard-on Day Dreaming |
| 1/18/12 | Getting Off the Assembly Editing Way |
| 1/26/12 | When Is Sex Addiction Not Sex Addiction |
| 2/16/12 | The Tina Fuck (No, Not Fuck Tina) Diet |
| 3/11/12 | The Res-Erection of Barebacking |
| 3/18/12 | The Way of All Flesh |
| 3/18/12 | Bottoms Up! |
| 3/25, 4/30/12 | What Would You Do If You Couldn’t Have Sex for A Year? |
| 3/29/12 | Not Happy With the Size of Your Dick? |
| 4/6/12 | Total Tops, Total Bottoms |
| 4/11/12 | What I’ve Learned About Fucking Men From Fucking Men |
| 4/14/12 | Is In-The-Flesh Sex Losing Out to Cyber Sex? |
| 4/27/12 | They Should Call It P-Pad (P for Porn) |
| 4/28/12 | My Top Worse Fag Habits in the Bedroom |
| 5/3/12 | So What’s My Fantasy? My REAL Fantasy? |
| 6/26/12 | The New Meat Syndrome |
| 6/27/12 | So What’s One Way for a Sex Pig to Go Celibate? |
| 6/27/12 | Go Fuck Yourself (Now You Can!) |
| 7/1/12 | Drugs and Sex: Inseparable? |
| 7/21/12 | Going Versatile |
My Life and Loves as a Hirsute Man
| 8/21/10 | It’s All About The Fur |
| 2/21/11 | My Life as a Furry Guy |
| 2/23/11 | Furry Backs |
| 2/25, 26/11 | Hairy Men I Have Known, Loved and Even Slept With |
| 6/14-16/11 | My Month as a Rentboy |
| 2/17/12 | My 15 Minutes of Fame (More Like 57) In Porn |
| 3/16/12 | I’m An Older Gay Man Who Likes Older Guys But … |
| 5/30,31;6/1/12 | The Memorial Day Weekend Diary of a Pig |
| 6/13/12 | Hirsute Phobia |
| 7/8, 9/12 | The Two Most Sensual Hours in My Life With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known |
| 7/10, 11/12 | Friday Night and Saturday Morning: More With The Sexiest Man I’ve Ever Known |
| 8/17, 18/12 | How My Last Blow-Out with The Sexiest Man in My Life Almost Became the Nightmare of My Life |
| 9/11/11 | 9-11: I Was There. |
Gay Personas
| 4/3/11 | Technos |
| 4/5/11 | Bears |
| 4/7/11 | Muscle Bears |
| 8/20/10 | The Belt Loop Boys |
| 4/4/11 | Peter Pans and Tinker Bells |
| 4/8/11 | Closet Cases |
| 4/9/11 | Bi’s |
| 4/10/11 | Extremos |
| 4/6/11 | Flickers |
| 5/15/11 | A Tale of Two Men |
| 1/29/11 | Party Boy |
| 10/17/10 | The Perfect Fuck |
| 12/23/10 | Airheads |
| 12/1,3/10 | This Dad Has Two Sons |
| 1/17/11 | On Your Knees: My Born Again Manhunt Hook-up |
| 12/27-31/10 | Meth Heads: Ode to Mitch |
| 3/18/12 | A Boy and His Dog |
| 3/20/12 | The 2012 Airhead of The Year Award |
| 3/21/12 | The New Age Flasher |
| 3/26/12 | Career Gays vs. Professional Gays |
| 4/20/12 | The Flypaper Boys |
| 4/27/12 | The Asshole of the Month Award |
| 5/2/12 | Klone Kevin |
| 5/4/12 | So What’s a Daddy Dick? |
| 5/5/12 | Heterosexists |
| 6/21/12 | Silent Sex: Making it with a Deaf Guy |
Relationships
For my blogs on Gay Marriage see “Gay Issues and Politics”
| 8/2310 | “Seeking LTR”: You Sure About That? |
| 2/14/11 | Gay LTR’s: Fantasy or Fact? |
| 2/18/11 | Making Relationships Work: Do’s and Don’ts |
| 9/25/10 | Monogamy: Another Gay Myth |
| 9/12/10 | Signs Something’s Amiss (in Your LTR) |
| 8/12/10 | Fuck Buddies |
| 2/16/11 | Partners Vs. Fuck Buddies: Who’s Better? |
| 2/19/11 | Fuckin’ Around (and Married) |
| 9/26, 27/10 | Threesomes: Utterly Decadent or Somewhat Problematic? |
| 2/20/11 | So You’re Calling It Quits: Getting Out Gracefully |
| 2/2/11 | Boys Don’t Cry: Are We Adult Males or Love Sick Adolescent Girls? |
| 3/31/12 | Ten Reasons Why Taking My Partner to Key West Was A Mistake |
| 4/8/12 | Monogamy Double Talk |
| 4/18/12 | Honesty in Relationships |
| 4/25/12 | He’s There Somewhere. Waiting. Waiting for You. |
| 7/22/12 | Those Who Don’t Have an LTR Want One, Those That Do, Want Out |
| 8/3/12 | Excess Baggage |
Sex Slots: Playing The Web
| 3/19/11 | The Web: The New Millennium’s Gay Addiction |
| 7/28/10 | Confessions of a Cyber-spike Addict |
| 3/20/11 | Cyberspikes: Almost As Good As You Know What |
| 3/21, 22/11 | What Works and Doesn’t in a Web Profile |
| 10/20/10?? | Family Albums |
| 3/25/11 | “Caution: You Have Just Entered The No Fuck Zone.” |
| 3/23, 24/11 | Hook-up Fuck-offs, Cyberstyle |
| 3/26, 27/11 | Cyber Mindfuckers |
| 2/5/11 | Will These Web Boys Shit or Get Off the Pot? |
| 5/5/11 | Reading Between The Lines |
| 5/4/11 | “BTW, I want let you know I’m Poz, if that’s OK with you” |
| 5/1/11 | Are The Hook-up Sites Getting Prudish? |
| 9/4/10 | Web Hook-ups from Hell: Cruising in Craig Country |
| 1/16/12 | Chat with Some Hunk in Dubai Lately? |
| 3/26/12 | Thank the Gay God For My Midnight IM Saviors |
| 4/5/12 | How To Reply to a Totally Unsolicited Web Hit |
| 4/24/12 | How NOT to Hit Up a Guy You Really Want on the Web |
| 5/1/12 | Get Ur &&;LA DY ##hOT 2niTE With a {tOOL th at deLIVERES |
| 5/3/12 | Hook-up Gems |
| 5/4/12 | Wireless Café |
| 5/23/12 | Hey Dude, You’re Fucken Hot, I’d Loving Getting Together But … |
| 6/13/12 | Front Page News in South Florida: Grindr! |
| 6/27/12 | Odd Man Out – More Web Weirdies |
| 6/27/12 | He Sounds Like A Great Guy, But … |
| 6/29/12 | The Web:A Numbers Game, & Like Vegas, the Odds Are Against You |
Friends, Family and Holidays
| 8/17, 18/10 | Friends of the Friendless |
| 12/19/10 | Friends, Vacation and Fucking |
| 12/21/10 | Why I Hate The Holidays |
| 5/8/11 | Memories of My Own “Mommie Dearest” |
| 12/21/11 | Christmas Cheer? |
| 4/22, 23/12 | When Alien Worlds Collide: Boring Suburban Relatives vs. Evil Urban Me |
| 5/13/12 | My Mother’s Day Royal Fuck-up |
| 3/13/12 | Dad: My First Sex Object |
| 5/28/12 | Remembering Dad on Memorial Day |
The Wizard! The Wizard!: Gays and God
| 12/20 | Yes, God Loves Us. |
| 12/22 | What If Jesus Were Bi? |
Tripping: My Take on Some So-Called Gay Travel Hotspots
| 5/2/11 | The Pig Vacation Planner |
| 9/29, 10/1/10 | San Francisco: Resting on Its Gay Laurels? |
| 11/19-21/10 | Key West Techno |
| 12/11, 12/10 | California Dreaming |
| 4/15/11 | Tampa and St. Pete’s |
| 5/14/12 | St. Pete’s Revisited |
| 4/13/11 | New Orleans |
| 4/14/11 | Chicago |
| 7/14, 15/12 | Montreal: Land of the Uncut 2010 vs. 2012 |
| 4/22/11 | London, Paris |
| 1/12/11 | Seattle Seedy |
| 8/5-8/12 | Cruising and Making It In Berlin |
Hangin’ in So Flo (South Florida)
| 3/29/11 | Hanging in SoFlo |
| 10/16/11 | Sebastian Beach, Fort Lauderdale’s Gay Sandbox |
| 3/30, 31/11 | Haulover: SoFlo’s Nude Beach |
| 4/2/11 | The Bar Scene for the Str8 Gay Man |
| 1/10/11 | Blowing A Load: Places to Have Sex (Legally) in Lauderdale |
Florida’s Gay Campgrounds
| 2/05/12 | Campground Cruising |
| 11/5, 6/10 | Cockteasing at Sawmill Campgrounds |
| 7/5/12 | No Life On Mars (Mars, Florida’s Gay Campgrounds That Is Is) |
| 12/12/11;7/28/12 | Vitambi Springs |
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