Xtreme Sex Series: Asphxiation Sex – How Tight Do You Want It?


I’ve used asphyxiation sex in a few of my short stories for tease terror value, but I’ve actually only done it once, the closest I think I came to committing involuntary manslaughter.  When it comes to control over another human being, asphyxiation makes punch fisting look like a bunch of eight year olds playing, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.”


I was on a drive vacation to Chicago and decided I’d stop along the way at lesser cities I’d never been. Columbus, Ohio, was among them. It was a late Friday afternoon and after checking into a sleazy hotel downtown and grabbing a Subway, I showered, then ventured out, my Damron gay guide in hand, dressed in a leather vest, red T, jeans and boots.


I’ve forgotten the name of the place but one glance said bear/leather/levi bar. It was August, hot and sticky (the bar had only ceiling fans) and when I saw a few other guys shirtless, I slipped off my T and my leather vest and strung both through my belt loops.


“So you gonna enter the contest?” asked the burly, bearded bartender as he handed me my Bud Lite.


“Contest?” I asked.


“The best hairy chest contest. We do it every Friday night. Winner gets fifty bucks.” Then he reached over the bar to stroke my chest. “Yep, you sure do qualify, mister, yum yum.”


Not exactly being shy, I signed up with the MC but knew that bars held these things to milk the crowd for more drinks, so that “Contest at Midnight” actually didn’t happen until closer to one.


I was on my second Bud when Gary strolled in. Tall, lanky and hippish with long flowing black hair and a long scruffy beard, he wore big horn rimmed glasses, a baggy, button down shirt that he had open to his navel to show off some lightly fuzzy flesh, and baggy black jeans. I was used to mentally stripping the superfluous off a guy, though, and could tell underneath his disguise that he had the bod and the looks. I was holding up the wall by the bar as he came over to stand directly across from me.


“Ten more minutes til we crown this week’s hairest chest!” announced the mc along with a drink special. Gary used the cue to open up.


“So I hope you entered buddy. I’m sure you’ll be the hands-down winner.”


“You never know,” I replied, moving over to him. “There’s always somebody better.”


“Hey man, I live here and I can tell you nobody I know has got you beat. Not by a long shot.”


I laughed. He groped. I told him about my trip. He told me about his life as a sometime employed graphic artist.


“Listen,” he went on more in a whisper,” If you win, will you come home with me? I live only a few blocks from here.”


“And if I lose?” I asked.


“Then I’ll come home with you.”


“Hotel, you mean.”


“Hotel, motel, convent  – shit. As long as it’s got a bed.”


There were only three other guys up there competing with me and frankly, it was a slam dunk. Hell, I had more hair on my left shoulder than one of them had on his whole body.


I collected my money and fifteen minutes later we were in Gary’s cramped cluttered apartment, naked on his waterbed, foreplaying away.


That’s when he sprang it on me.


“You into breath control?”


I tried to look and sound ecumenical.


“Never tried it but if you like me to do it to you …”


With that, Gary stood up, reached for his jeans he had flung on a chair and slipped off his wide leather belt. Then he lay back on the bed, tucked a pillow beneath his head, and handed me the belt as I sat down on his belly, straddling him.


“I want you to put it around my neck and pull it tight.”


As I did what he told me to do, I could see his chest first become more agitated, then his breath more labored. I stopped.


“No, no,” he said softly, grabbing my hand. “Keep going. Don’t worry, I’m O.K.”


I hesitated a second, then continued my tug on the belt until his face turned blue and he appeared to fall into unconsciousness. That’s when I panicked, slapped his face a few times, and getting no response, sprung up, grabbed my T and headed for the door.


“Where you’re gonna?” he shouted in a gruffed tone. “I’m not done yet.”


“I am,” I shouted back, slamming the door behind me.


It wasn’t until after I got back to my hotel room that I realized that, in my haste to escape, I had forgotten my $125 leather vest.


So, next to checking out a sex club or bath house, my little dabbling in asphyxiation sex was the most expensive sexual encounter I think I’ll ever have til I’m 75 and use Click-A-Trick.

Next: Scat – Dirty Little Secrets





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