We all are hardwired for a certain type of guy, which goes beyond just physical specs like height, weight, build, coloring, race, sexual preferences or cock size. Thrown into this sexy stew are also personality traits that are indicative of a certain lifestyle or view on life. Combine them – specs and personality – and you have what I call the gay personas. One such distinctive persona in our sub-culture are The Technos.
While so many of us regardless of age have either welcomed with open arms or accepted begrudgingly by default all the new manhunting technology in the age we live in, true Technos tend to be under thirty somethings who grew up with a computer in their playpen or a smartphone up their butt. They frankly never knew a world without the pc, the web and the cell, and so have always been quick IT learners. It is largely because of all this techno stuff that they have grown up in a sub-culture no longer centered on bars as places to cruise, or baths to connect in (notice how many bath houses have shuttered or have turned into God’s waiting rooms in the last few years?) or face to face encounters or conversation or even, Christ, real sucking and fucking. Instead, for them, gay life has always been dominated by pixels, e-mails, texting (not talking) and apps like Scruff. Worse, it has made virtual sex, i.e., camming and the endless availability of web porn and dirty pics afforded by all the hook-up sites not just an option but a preference.
This is not to say all young gays are without social skills. But I think that this technology has made many of us – young and old – social cripples. Or maybe it’s the technology that attracts the social cripples among us in the first place. After all, in this not so brave new world, you really don’t have to be courteous or polite or diplomatic. You’re facing a screen not a person. In an uncomfortable situation? Just don’t respond or better, block the fuck. Feeling inadequate? Create a whole bogus person, the wild boy you’d really like to be. Hey, you have no intentions, despite all your come hither talk, of ever meeting the guy, right?
Worse, this abruptness and incivility rubs off on all of us, even those of us who were brought up to know and act better, and, soon, without realizing it, we become the same dispassionate, shallow pricks we complain about.
Or, are Technos really just being more honest? No convoluted, bullshit excuses or protracted explanations. Just press “delete.” Or don’t respond at all. The guy on the other end gets the message loud and clear.
Having said all that, one subset of Technos I’m still kinda sweet on are the gay geeks or nerds who don’t just exploit the technology but are into it more than fisters are into Elbow Grease. For me, even when they’re kinda ordinary looking, they’re especially adorable and oh-so-sexy. I’ve also found through experience that they’re often the piggiest in bed.
Hey, we all gotta let our hair down sometime, right?