Another Installment of My Gay Advice Column: “Go Ask Daddy”
Buddy: I really dig this guy and I thought he dug me, too. We had some of the best sex the two of us have ever had in our lives but suddenly, after a month, he “cold turkey” stopped answering my texts and calls. I’ve texted or reached out to him on the hook-up site where we first met at least half a dozen times with no response. But I just can’t forget him. What should I do?
Daddy: There’s lots of reasons why your love isn’t answering:
(a) He’s dead.
(b) He’s in rehab.
(c) He works for the CIA.
(d) He decided to become a priest or join the Peace Corps.
(e) He has a partner and you were just a good fuck.
(f) He’s married – to a woman – with three kids.
(g) He met somebody better.
Or maybe he just lost interest – what I like to call the “New Meat Syndrome.” So, if I were you, I’d give him one last send-off,and tell him if and when he wants to reconnect, he knows where to find you.
THEN MOVE ON.
If somebody doesn’t like you, or has lost interest or just leads a complicated existence, accept that reality. All the crying in the world ain’t gonna change that. And if you did get a hold of him in one of his weaker moments, and he reconnects out of some kind of guilt, not because he wants to, you’re only setting yourself up for further heartache.
In the meantime, get some goldfish as a distraction. At least you don’t have to housebreak them.
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